When things are over..

[ChocolateSouldaddy]

So I've been pretty committed to my first little for pretty much this entire year.We broke up often over the past 7 months(That's how long we were together)Things ended really bad because of miscommunication.I'm taking it pretty hard..it was long distance and today was the day we were suppose to meet for the first time.I've heard things always end sour with the first little...but I wanted her to be my only little..I don't feel like this is something you should do over and over again with different people.The bond between dom and sub is a pretty special intimate relationship...Does anyone have any suggestions on what to do?Or how to get pass it?She was only my fourth girlfriend in life and my first little.So..yeah....

[PizzaOnARoof]

The first relationship is always the hardest to end. At the same time, you gotta know when to let go. "If you love something, set it free." is the motto I associate with that type of thing. Following her around and being a creep trying to get back with her even after both of you agreed to end it isnt just unfair and selfish, its kinda weird. Overall, you just keep going. Ya cant hurry love, but once you find it you'll know

 

Edited July 28, 2018 by PizzaOnARoof

[Guest JackSkellington]

As above really. Know it's hard, but you just have to suck it up and move on. Try surrounding yourself with friends.

[Guest You're adorable.]

Well, first of al, I am sorry for what happened. It seems like you really liked your little and you are upset that it ended up the way it did.

 

But there is a good thing in all of this. First, you realized what was the flaw, and why it ended the way it did (miscommunication), second you seek a strong and intimate bound and that shows me that you are good caregiver/dom and that you are really searching for that special bond.

 

Indeed, a bond between sub and dom is a special one, no matter the variation of it. It is definitely more 'basic' relationship, I would say. More primal. It's very immersive and beautiful. So it's only natural that when it comes to an end for whatever reason, it hurts. It hurts a lot. My advice would be the good, old "Don't cry because it's over. Smile because it happened." . Take this as a valuable lesson the will make you a better dom/caregiver. You already made the first step when identifying the cause of end of your relationship. All experiences, even the bad ones, will us move somewhere. And it's only up to you if they will move you forward or backwards. 

Edited July 28, 2018 by You're adorable.

[Guest ~*~Sachita~*~]

 

After a breakup

 

https://www.ddlgforum.com/topic/3306-losing-a-little/

https://www.ddlgforum.com/topic/4942-im-a-lost-princess-i-need-help-please/

https://www.ddlgforum.com/topic/5564-my-little-disappearedcompletely-devastated/

https://www.ddlgforum.com/topic/7515-daddy-dumped-me/

https://www.ddlgforum.com/topic/33157-moving-on-from-a-strong-ddlg-relationship/

https://www.ddlgforum.com/topic/33297-what-to-do-if-your-daddy-leaves-you/

https://www.ddlgforum.com/topic/33307-how-to-move-on-from-a-break-up-please-advices/

https://www.ddlgforum.com/topic/33877-break-ups/

[Kaiser]

Use this time for self improvement. Don't dwell on the past, work towards the future.