What does "daddy" mean to you?

[Guest Aetherr]

i want to hear from other caregivers/daddies and littles on this subject, what does the title daddy mean to you and why do you think some hold onto the title as some sacred  name for the one and only (i am monogamous so that is what it means to me) and others use it more umm.. "liberally" (best word i can think of) i am new to the dynamic and one of the first things i was taught by my first little is that "daddy" is earned and given to one and only one.

Edited September 4, 2018 by Aetherr

[Little Illy]

I was taught by my first little is that "daddy" is earned and given to one and only one.

 

This is both correct and inherently flawed. 

 

'Daddy' is the title you earn by your partner, you ARE a Daddy even without a little.'

 

With so many people getting into incompatible relationships, its hard to find the truly non-Daddies from Daddies. To which: https://www.ddlgforum.com/topic/23301-fake-it-needs-to-stop/ (SFW) There are truly very few fake Littles and fake Caregivers. Lets all be mature and remember that.

 

For me though, Daddy is someone who... knows me like none other. 

 

I have never called someone Daddy outside of my Daddy in a honest nature (RPs, stories, erotica, etc otherwise) because for me it was saved for the one person who I could open up with, share with, truly be myself and count on the most. The one who sees me for Me and doesn't turn away for better, but loves me for Me.

 

But if I am being 100% honest - to me, Daddy is my best friend (not even talking about my actual Daddy here, tho he is my bestie). My very best friend who doesn't judge, who I enjoy spending every moment with because we enjoy common things. My best friend who encourages me to do better, yet calls me out on my sit. My best friend who I can be honest with when they have upset me. My best friend who I want to be reading next to, playing board games with, and just chilling with for the rest of my life.

 

My best friend who, when age has taken stamina, creativity, flexibility, looks, mobile capabilities, despite it all, still is happy to be with me and vice versa. The one where nothing else matters except the fact we fit perfectly. My best friend who is not perfect, who is flawed, and has character. My best friend who does everything he can for me, and understands I never expect more than that. And vice versa. 

 

"Daddy" means to me the ultimate, lifelong, best friend.

[prince eefy]

daddy to me means my forever. my everything. my one and only. my world. he's my caregiver. my best friend. i have had the unfortunate event of having a daddy that was not very good to me, he was my first daddy so it gave me a bad.. impression of daddies/caregivers. but the one i have now, and the last one i will have... it feels so much better. healthier.

Edited September 4, 2018 by littleblueskyee

[LittleCelticLass]

To me, Daddy is mine. There are other daddies, just as they are other baby girls. (Please note capitalization) Daddy, is a name I give to the one person who has become my guide, my rock, my playmate and partner. The one I give myself too. Much like Master versus master, one is a title, one is a descriptor (Again, capitalization.). There are lots of daddies in the world, but only one is my Daddy. Edited September 4, 2018 by LittleCelticLass

[Guest Bunnyblossom]

Daily kisses.

Affection and attentions.

Deliverin’ the dickin’s.

Don’t test the limit of his patience, he’s a hard workin’ Daddy.

You only get one.

 

[baby_k]

For me daddy is sometimes more of a petname even. But mainly I separate daddy from boyfriend/husband ( even he might be that also )  with the caring dynamic where he looks after me a lot more than in "normal" rel would be considered as okay/"normal" or healthy even. So, I have bit different expectation/idea of the level he is involved with my wellbeing.

 

For me the tittle/petname is deserved. I would ( and have ) refused to call anyone daddy who does not meet my idea of absolute trust: I have to be convinced that they want what is best for me, they prioritaze me, consider me and so forward. Meaning I know that I can trust them to put my best interest always first.

 

My current daddy is not my boyfriend for we have not yet even met. And originally I wanted to save that daddy name also for the time we meet -just to be sure, know all is real and works. Well, life happened ( == me blurting out he is my daddy in subspace.... He was fine with me taking it back but felt pretty correct, so from there on he was my daddy ).

 

Daddydom then again brings in the sexual and dominating side of the dynamic. But daddydom is bit weird petname, so, I just use daddy. Even sometimes my daddy is just a daddy and sometimes he is my daddydom.

[Kitten Fluff]

Daddy is a person who I can go to for anything. 

 

Owie? Go to daddy he will kiss it and make sure to have a cute band aid for it. 

 

Missing your stuffie? Daddy will help you find it!

 

Sad and feeling like poo outside of littlespace? Daddy will be there to help you feel better. 

 

 

 

 

Daddy means a lifelong partner, a trusted person who can always be there. 

 

Daddy means forever to me 

[Guest Prat]

This is both correct and inherently flawed. 

Love your responses!

[Guest lilprincess1703]

My protector, my guide, my safety.

My partner, my soulmate, my friend. 

My lover, my companion in life, my partner in crime. 

My cheerleader, my support, my equal. 

[Bambi95]

To me, Daddy is... The Senate

[Maids]

I have made the mistake of calling people who did not deserve the title of "Daddy" when I was rather new to the scene, giving them that power resulted in me losing the true definition of a Daddy; I fell broken, sad, unwanted, abandoned, you name it... I felt as though no one would be able to love me and accept me the way I always accepted and loved others, that it would always be imbalanced no matter what I tried.

 

Then, my Daddy came around and showed me what it's like to have a best friend, a lover, my protector, a husband, my superhero, my teacher my journal of little secrets that I tell no one else but him... all wrapped up in a nice and tight little sushi roll. He found me when I was on the verge of giving up, losing it all, not even thinking about giving anything another shot. He picked me up and spun me around and told me that I can be whoever I want to be, that I'm not alone, that even though I am broken and sad, he will accept me and help me build me up so I can take on those challenges of getting back on my feet. He showed me that acceptance exists, that it's possible to heal through my wounds, I wasn't unwanted, and I am certainly not broken beyond repair. 

 

I told him the girl I wanted to be before I was destroyed by the people that weren't fit for me, yet I twisted and bent myself in all sorts of positions to try and please them when they never did anything for me... my Daddy took my hand fearlessly and told me that he's with me for all that journey, I'm going to slip up sometimes and that's okay, but I will always get back up. He helped me regain the strength to push on and be the better me that I wanted to be for the longest time. He still teaches me things everyday. I wear my heart on my sleeve and most of the time, it ends in heartache... he is trying to teach me that not everyone is an angel (like I am hehe) and that people have to earn my golden heart. He teaches me to never, ever, ever give up, no matter how steep the challenge may appear, that I can do it and I will not be alone during the process. 

 

He exercises my submissive nature all of the time. I had always want to give more power than I was able to give in my past relationships; I refused to relinquish back then because I didn't feel right with them. The moment he became my Daddy, my walls started to come down and I came out of my shell slowly, before I was even able to realize that I came out. He makes things so easy for me, he's the greatest teacher of all and I am so lucky to have such a great influence in my life. As we are LDR, we can't necessarily help eachother with certain tasks such as work, family arrangements, the social anxiety of grocery shopping... but he builds me up so much with just his voice and words of reassurance that I feel like I can take it on all by myself. He builds me up so that way I know that I have the strength in myself and I am not completely reliant on my Daddy, but he is there for when I stumble. Ofcourse, all of these are reciprocated back to him. One very special thing that my past relationships have not been able to offer me is that I'm slowly but surely, becoming more and more younger as times go on with my Daddy. He makes me feel as smoll as possible and that makes me feel so great in ways that I have no experienced before. I wish I could write all of the ways he has helped me grow but I'd be here all night.   

 

For me, my Daddy is my best friend forever. He knows when to set his Dominance aside and speak with me on common ground and doesn't punish me for anything I say on that common ground, I'm able to be raw, genuine, and real with him. For myself, that hasn't been easy, I've always had my secrets and covering up my weaknesses because I didn't have faith that they would stay and want to help me. With my Daddy now, I was able to push myself past those barricades, let him in without being afraid, and have a real relationship.. someone who is mature enough to not give up and flee at the sight of conflict, we strive to understand both sides of the story and become more and more thoughtful over time for one another. We play as though we are best friends, teasing eachother over silly things we say; we understand eachother like soul mates even if we screw up mega bad; we love eachother like first loves; we took our vows of D/s as though we are husband and wife.

 

I love my Daddy with all of me and I could never thank him enough for what he has done for me.   

Edited September 4, 2018 by Foxette

[Dominari]

My protector, my guide, my safety.

My partner, my soulmate, my friend. 

My lover, my companion in life, my partner in crime. 

My cheerleader, my support, my equal. 

I couldn't have said it much better. Maybe add disciplinarian; sometimes that has to happen...but always with the cheerleader afterwards

[MadelynVictoria]

For me when I think of the title, 'daddy', I think of a protector. Someone that is going to keep me safe physically, emotionally, and mentally. He's somebody that I can lean on and look to when I cannot stand on my own. He's someone that will guide me when I am lost, and help me become who I want to be. He's someone to be treasured, and loved with all of my heart and soul, and cared for like how he cares for me.

[Guest Aetherr]

thank you everyone, this is exactly what i thought!

[Guest Aetherr]

This is both correct and inherently flawed. 

 

'Daddy' is the title you earn by your partner, you ARE a Daddy even without a little.'

 

 

 

i should have been more clear what i mean is, what does the title mean, not so much what makes a daddy.. More what qualities you see in a person that make you want to call them daddy, to chose to call them your daddy!

[xBabydollx]

My fav titles are Sir and Daddy, tho Daddy is much more exclusive to 1 person, where as I am comfortable calling a Dom Sir if I HIGHLY respect them in a Dominant role. Neither title I say loosely. To earn the title Daddy, they would have to be capable of guiding me and protecting me like 'Sir' can, but also able to be gentle and create an environment where the little in me can flourish, which only a Daddy can do. Not everyone can make me relish in my little side and feel safe and secure while doing it, which is why not everyone deserves me calling them Daddy. They might be a Daddy, but not 'my' Daddy.

[Guest MisterW]

I have made the mistake of calling people who did not deserve the title of "Daddy" when I was rather new to the scene, giving them that power resulted in me losing the true definition of a Daddy; I fell broken, sad, unwanted, abandoned, you name it... I felt as though no one would be able to love me and accept me the way I always accepted and loved others, that it would always be imbalanced no matter what I tried.

 

Then, my Daddy came around and showed me what it's like to have a best friend, a lover, my protector, a husband, my superhero, my teacher my journal of little secrets that I tell no one else but him... all wrapped up in a nice and tight little sushi roll. He found me when I was on the verge of giving up, losing it all, not even thinking about giving anything another shot. He picked me up and spun me around and told me that I can be whoever I want to be, that I'm not alone, that even though I am broken and sad, he will accept me and help me build me up so I can take on those challenges of getting back on my feet. He showed me that acceptance exists, that it's possible to heal through my wounds, I wasn't unwanted, and I am certainly not broken beyond repair. 

 

I told him the girl I wanted to be before I was destroyed by the people that weren't fit for me, yet I twisted and bent myself in all sorts of positions to try and please them when they never did anything for me... my Daddy took my hand fearlessly and told me that he's with me for all that journey, I'm going to slip up sometimes and that's okay, but I will always get back up. He helped me regain the strength to push on and be the better me that I wanted to be for the longest time. He still teaches me things everyday. I wear my heart on my sleeve and most of the time, it ends in heartache... he is trying to teach me that not everyone is an angel (like I am hehe) and that people have to earn my golden heart. He teaches me to never, ever, ever give up, no matter how steep the challenge may appear, that I can do it and I will not be alone during the process. 

 

He exercises my submissive nature all of the time. I had always want to give more power than I was able to give in my past relationships; I refused to relinquish back then because I didn't feel right with them. The moment he became my Daddy, my walls started to come down and I came out of my shell slowly, before I was even able to realize that I came out. He makes things so easy for me, he's the greatest teacher of all and I am so lucky to have such a great influence in my life. As we are LDR, we can't necessarily help eachother with certain tasks such as work, family arrangements, the social anxiety of grocery shopping... but he builds me up so much with just his voice and words of reassurance that I feel like I can take it on all by myself. He builds me up so that way I know that I have the strength in myself and I am not completely reliant on my Daddy, but he is there for when I stumble. Ofcourse, all of these are reciprocated back to him. One very special thing that my past relationships have not been able to offer me is that I'm slowly but surely, becoming more and more younger as times go on with my Daddy. He makes me feel as smoll as possible and that makes me feel so great in ways that I have no experienced before. I wish I could write all of the ways he has helped me grow but I'd be here all night.   

 

For me, my Daddy is my best friend forever. He knows when to set his Dominance aside and speak with me on common ground and doesn't punish me for anything I say on that common ground, I'm able to be raw, genuine, and real with him. For myself, that hasn't been easy, I've always had my secrets and covering up my weaknesses because I didn't have faith that they would stay and want to help me. With my Daddy now, I was able to push myself past those barricades, let him in without being afraid, and have a real relationship.. someone who is mature enough to not give up and flee at the sight of conflict, we strive to understand both sides of the story and become more and more thoughtful over time for one another. We play as though we are best friends, teasing eachother over silly things we say; we understand eachother like soul mates even if we screw up mega bad; we love eachother like first loves; we took our vows of D/s as though we are husband and wife.

 

I love my Daddy with all of me and I could never thank him enough for what he has done for me.   

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