Guest TheOtherGuy Posted November 3, 2018 Report Share Posted November 3, 2018 (edited) n/a Edited December 29, 2018 by TheOtherGuy Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
gorebaby Posted November 3, 2018 Report Share Posted November 3, 2018 Awe! Don't be so hard on yourself mister! You did your very best for her! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Valfreyja Posted November 3, 2018 Report Share Posted November 3, 2018 From reading this, I don't think you did anything wrong. It seems like you tried to stay by her side, even when what she told you made you wary. To be honest, you mentioned having to suppress your feelings of anxiety and your nature to overthink. Suppressing your feelings certainly isn't healthy, especially when you have other mental health issues. I don't mean to sound harsh, but due to that, I don't think you two were well suited to one another. In a relationship, you both need to work together to support one another. I think this sounds like a lecture- I'm so sorry for that! I wish you the best, and I hope things get better for you. Look after yourself! 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest TheOtherGuy Posted November 3, 2018 Report Share Posted November 3, 2018 From reading this, I don't think you did anything wrong. It seems like you tried to stay by her side, even when what she told you made you wary. To be honest, you mentioned having to suppress your feelings of anxiety and your nature to overthink. Suppressing your feelings certainly isn't healthy, especially when you have other mental health issues. I don't mean to sound harsh, but due to that, I don't think you two were well suited to one another. In a relationship, you both need to work together to support one another. I think this sounds like a lecture- I'm so sorry for that! I wish you the best, and I hope things get better for you. Look after yourself! Not harsh at all! I appreciate what you said and agree with you to be honest! Doesn't sound like a lecture either! Thank you for your kind words Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SamL Posted November 3, 2018 Report Share Posted November 3, 2018 I have a couple of thoughts based on your post. That doesn't mean I'm right - I don't have a lot of information to go on... 1. You can't possibly have sufficient information about another person to determine - or even suspect that you're a perfect match 'in the beginning' of a week long sporadic interaction. It seems to me that you are so keen on being in a relationship, that you are taking some emotional shortcuts. 2. Why have you decided that you overthink? Or perhaps a different question - who is in charge of deciding how much thinking is an appropriate amount of thinking? I suspect that someone (or maybe even many someones) have told you that you overthink and you've decided they must be right. I've been accused of overthinking as well - though I'm of the mind that most people under-think. 3. So you tried to suppress your 'over-thinking' because she doesn't like people who over-think? Never try to be someone else so that someone likes you. It doesn't seem like a perfect fit to me if one of the parties has to change who they are to make it happen. Good luck! 5 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MysticSand Posted November 5, 2018 Report Share Posted November 5, 2018 Maybe I was always in the wrong for being so flawed? Whoa whoa whoa! This is the very last thing you should ever think or feel! It is never wrong to have flaws as we are all human. Just the fact that you're willing to admit to having flaws, shows a lot about your ability to self-reflect and your eagerness to self-improve. Both unique qualities that not a lot of humans have, and things that you should be proud of! The course of a week is an extremely short amount of time to have such an emotional roller coaster and I agree with what the other posters have said. It sounds like this was possibly a situation where she needed you in the moment. Not to say that there wasn't a genuine connection in the beginning, but sometimes people just need another person in the moment and aren't truly looking for a deeper connection despite saying or leading on otherwise. You do not deserve to be treated poorly no matter the situation, especially when it comes to something like opening up to someone and being kind so please don't think or feel like you "deserved" being treated so. You're a thoughtful, caring, and amazing individual and you'll find someone who will treat you as you treat them. Have hope and believe in yourself! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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