pushieshappen Posted January 9, 2019 Report Share Posted January 9, 2019 (edited) So! I've recently consented to and had a threesome with a close friend and her Daddy, which was honestly the best sex I've had in my life . I'm also a little, but I'm not sure how to address her Daddy, who is her monogamous partner. Her Daddy and I haven't talked it over, but he's a very nice a guy and I feel free to. I just have a few hangups and want a little education before I talk about kink during a threesome- I'd likely only have a DDLG dynamic with them during sexual contexts and the times around them, given that they are both in a monogamous romantic relationship and matching monogamous DDLG lifestyle. I'm not sure if I want to interrupt that relationship, even though I'm into similar kinks as both of them. To address that, I have a few questions for the community at large, so I can hear what's been done before! How would you add a third person coming into your CG/L relationship? How could littles who share a caregiver/big in play ("siblings") address each other? What could a caregiver/big do to preserve a feeling of emotional attachment to their priority little during a threesome? What attitudes could help a third-person little to avoid attaching to that lifestyle dynamic, and exist apart from being a little in the intimate presence of a DDLG relationship/sexual relationship? Any other tips, tricks, or advice for me? edit: Some wording. They are indeed following the nonsexual DDLG lifestyle as well as a sexual one. Edited January 9, 2019 by pushieshappen Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Momma'sBoy Posted January 9, 2019 Report Share Posted January 9, 2019 Great questions! Generally I prefer more open/poly relationships, so having more partners would just for into that family dynamic. I would love to have a family with more than one caregiver, and they would each be Daddy/Mommy/Parent. Similarly for the other littles, they could be my brothers/sisters/siblings (I already have a baby sis in a LTR). It sounds like your situation was more of a one-time-thing rather than joining their relationship. In that case I'd probably treat it more as a playdate. Your friend would be a friend and her daddy would be just that. You could refer to him respectfully as Mr. X (or X's Daddy), just think back to when you were a kid and had playdates and try to recreate the dynamic between you and your friends and their parents. 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest QueenJellybean Posted January 9, 2019 Report Share Posted January 9, 2019 hello! resident polya ambassador here, moderator jelly! i've been actively polyamorous for over five years. i have several sibling relationships (or metamours -- partner's of my partner -- that are littles or have small tendencies)! i take a big sister role pretty regularly, including out of the bedroom, + we usually just call each other by name. occasionally, i'll call them my sister or brother. i've also have a big brother role before, too. (which i totally miss desperately) as was stated before, your situation sounds less like polya + more of a one-time thing or an open relationship. make sure the boundaries of play versus outside of play are clear, + discussed in advance. have an open dialogue with the couple prior to sexual activity about any rules you should know about that they have within their own relationship, as well as limits + comfort levels. make sure your needs are being met + respected, too! you aren't just their plaything for a quickie! (unless you wanna be, i suppose!) be transparent in your emotions + intentions, communicate openly before, during + after, + make sure you guys have a clear plan for what comes after play time is done. have fun! + don't ever feel like you can't stop, back out, or change the plan for your own comfort or safety. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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