Little / Middle Differences?

[Cattywumpuss]

Morning all. Hopefully this is the right place for this.

I was wondering if anybody would be willing to share thoughts / opinions on the differences between Littles and Middles?

I have little friends that I know fairly well and so have learnt a bit about littles, but I’m more clueless on middles. Other than the age differences between little and middle space.

I want to learn more about middles though. So any information, tips, thoughts, etc would be appreciated. Thanks,

Catty.

[MentorDaddy]

Hey Catty, great question!

In my view, people are quite unique, even when they belong to the same group. It would be really helpful if you could share why you're curious about this and what exactly you're referring to.

And if you're asking this because of an interaction with someone, it might be even more effective to directly ask them about their individual preferences and experiences.

Looking forward to hearing more from you! 😊

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[CodeName: Trouble]

Hullo! 😄

I'm a little, not a middle, but I have some links for you that might help!

The following links are to other posts on this forum that talk about Middles, I'm sure there are others out there as well but this is what I found.

Along with any responses you get to this post regarding your question, I hope these can help some ^-^

 

 

[Cattywumpuss]

1 hour ago, MentorDaddy said:

Hey Catty, great question!

In my view, people are quite unique, even when they belong to the same group. It would be really helpful if you could share why you're curious about this and what exactly you're referring to.

And if you're asking this because of an interaction with someone, it might be even more effective to directly ask them about their individual preferences and experiences.

Looking forward to hearing more from you! 😊

Thanks so much for the response. Yes I realize my question was pretty broad and vague. 😁

Agreed that people are all unique and different, that’s what makes connections so amazing in my opinion. This is a conversation I am also having directly with my girlfriend who newly identifies as a middle. So that conversation is taking place in addition to whatever ones happen here.

I was curious because it’s an area I’m pretty unfamiliar with and I just wanted to learn more in whatever way I can.

For example I know from my little friends that some activities they frequently enjoy are coloring, watching cartoons, playing with their stuffies, and being bathed by their caregivers.

(Obviously that’s an oversimplification and of course not all littles are in to the same thing. But it’s an example.)

So taking that example what activities might middles enjoy? Is it similar things, activities aimed at a slightly older age group or . . . . ?

So activities would be one area I’d love to get feedback on from people who have way more experience I do. The differences between what may be considered little activities and what may be considered middle activities for example.

Then any other areas that any middles or caregivers looking after middles would care to discuss with me. Like I said, I’m kinda new to this and would appreciate anything anybody wants to share. LOL

Thank you in advance! ☺️

[Cattywumpuss]

19 minutes ago, CodeName: Trouble said:

Hullo! 😄

I'm a little, not a middle, but I have some links for you that might help!

The following links are to other posts on this forum that talk about Middles, I'm sure there are others out there as well but this is what I found.

Along with any responses you get to this post regarding your question, I hope these can help some ^-^

 

 

Morning! 👋

Thank you so, so much for these and for taking the time to reply and share them. I can’t wait to go read what they have to offer. 😁

I am very new here and have started looking around but having you share these certainly makes that a lot easier for me!

Have a great day! 😊

[MentorDaddy]

Thanks for giving some more explanation.

One of my girlfriends sometimes felt like she was a baby, sometimes like a little, sometimes like a middle. Looking back, it was not only about activities belonging to a certain age, but also about mindset. It was about being more or less independent, more or less capable of empathizing with others, about being able to take on more or fewer intellectual challenges. If she was a middle, she was in a different mental state than if she was a little or a baby. Of course, she is just one person, I'm not speaking for anyone else

Would you like to tell us what your girlfriend is saying?

[Cattywumpuss]

3 minutes ago, MentorDaddy said:

Thanks for giving some more explanation.

One of my girlfriends sometimes felt like she was a baby, sometimes like a little, sometimes like a middle. Looking back, it was not only about activities belonging to a certain age, but also about mindset. It was about being more or less independent, more or less capable of empathizing with others, about being able to take on more or fewer intellectual challenges. If she was a middle, she was in a different mental state than if she was a little or a baby. Of course, she is just one person, I'm not speaking for anyone else

Would you like to tell us what your girlfriend is saying?

Yes on the mindset and her headspace for sure. It shows more or less strongly at different times.

I’d be glad to share what she is saying once her and I talk about it more. 😁 When I say her and I are new to exploring this think days and hours, not months and years. Hah, hah.

We also do not live together at the moment and prefer to keep important / deeper conversations to in-person. Which is better communication wise but sucks as we aren’t together to do that all the time.

Basically though her and I have been together 9 months now. She is new to kink and alternative relationships and so although I saw some little / DDlg tendencies in her and our relationship from the start I didn’t really dive in to them and just let things “float” as they were.

Last weekend we had a conversation that more or less focused on how organically in our relationship I have become her Daddy and she is my little kitten. But also how we love it and want to explore it more and purposefully now.

She identifies as a middle though, and that’s about all we have really identified for now.

So this is all extremely new to her, and pretty new to me as well. This here I am learning, reading, asking questions and so on. ☺️

(Apologies for the long answer, it’s impossible for me to be brief. 🤣)

[Cebakes]

As mentioned, everyone is different.  I was in a four year relationship with a 25 year old woman that identified as a middle.  While we never tried to really put exact ages on it, I would say she was a teen. More of an older, silly,  nerdy, goofy, needy teen.  With lots of laughter, silliness, and being carefree, she could even regress more and drop into littlespace, and act more like a little. 

[AmbrosiaSky]

🙋‍♀️ I’m a Middle

For me the differences are most apparent in what I have an interest in. I enjoy makeup 💄, Pee Wee Herman & Jem is AMAZING! 🤭✨ and I tend to be waaaaaay more sexual when I regress than my Little friends 👀🤭🐾

I believe for me… it comes down where I find peace and when I regress I tend be comfortable at around 10 - 12yrs old. It may or may not make a difference but due to childhood trauma I don’t have many memories before that age, but that’s just me. 
🧸 

[MissNMTX]

Gosh, so many thoughts on this. First off, I believe being a middle is harder indeed. There aren't as many of us and there are nearly as many research resources to learn about middles. Some(not here thankfully) will tell you middles don't really belong in DDlg(DDmg).

I actually don't age regress( at least in a typical way.) But I do know that for me it's about going back to a time that was very happy and stable in my childhood. Kinda a way of wanting to stay there I guess. A time when you're growing up, but not grown up..lol  I would agree with others, that for me personally there is more of a sexual component. Generally, there's more independence in being a middle. Needing different things from your "daddy".

I don't know if this even answers your question or helps at all. To me it seems a bit rambling. All I can really say is sorting all this out and finding where you fit can be complicated even confusing and it doesn't take time. So, go slowly and be patient with yourself. It's a journey, but figuring out what you want, need, and what makes you happy is totally worth it!

Hugs

[Cattywumpuss]

8 hours ago, AmbrosiaSky said:

🙋‍♀️ I’m a Middle

For me the differences are most apparent in what I have an interest in. I enjoy makeup 💄, Pee Wee Herman & Jem is AMAZING! 🤭✨ and I tend to be waaaaaay more sexual when I regress than my Little friends 👀🤭🐾

I believe for me… it comes down where I find peace and when I regress I tend be comfortable at around 10 - 12yrs old. It may or may not make a difference but due to childhood trauma I don’t have many memories before that age, but that’s just me. 
🧸

Thank you for the response. ☺️ That makes sense about having different interests and I get about finding peace as well. Food for thought that I appreciate! Thank you! 👍

[Cattywumpuss]

3 hours ago, MissNMTX said:

Gosh, so many thoughts on this. First off, I believe being a middle is harder indeed. There aren't as many of us and there are nearly as many research resources to learn about middles. Some(not here thankfully) will tell you middles don't really belong in DDlg(DDmg).

I actually don't age regress( at least in a typical way.) But I do know that for me it's about going back to a time that was very happy and stable in my childhood. Kinda a way of wanting to stay there I guess. A time when you're growing up, but not grown up..lol  I would agree with others, that for me personally there is more of a sexual component. Generally, there's more independence in being a middle. Needing different things from your "daddy".

I don't know if this even answers your question or helps at all. To me it seems a bit rambling. All I can really say is sorting all this out and finding where you fit can be complicated even confusing and it doesn't take time. So, go slowly and be patient with yourself. It's a journey, but figuring out what you want, need, and what makes you happy is totally worth it!

Hugs

Morning. I appreciate the detailed response  and it did not seem rambling at all. Very helpful in fact. ☺️ I’ll be rereading it a few times.

Agreed in the taking time and figuring things out. 😊