DDLG & AGERE is it possible to be both can people chime in?

[Guest bigDadaM]

So I hope I'm not breaking any rules having this discussion I'll preface by saying we are currently separated but my little loves all the cute stuff and being told what to do and given tasks and loves pacifiers.

so she is a ddlg little but she also has times where she actually reverts to a child like state sometimes non verbal, her voice tone changes, even cute talk like a child, her eyes and her face you can tell it changes and I must call her baby she calls herself baby.

I think she's also D.I.D along with BPD we have all the normal things you expect in a relationship and we have plenty of healthy conversations about consent because there are times she will revert to her little self when we are in the middle of intimate situations sometimes it is involuntary but she tells me she enjoys all the intimate things it makes her feel closer to her daddy and sharing something so special is very important for her and her little side.

Is there any other relationships like this obviously not everyone is sxual DDLG and that's fine but some are. 

Curious to find if there are others Littles who are also AGERE in DDLG relationship.

 

No judgement please

[.คℓ𝐞ﾒเᏰααα .ᐟ]

A lot of Littles participate in ageplay (kink), but also experience age regression (not kink/therapy). It varies from Little to Little, but what you described is a perfectly normal aspect of a DDLG relationship.

Speaking personally, I'm an age regressor. I don't participate in kink ageplay, but I am married to a partner who doubles as my Mommy for my little headspace. She doesn't mind that my trauma has left me disinterested in the kink aspect.

What I'm getting at, is that each relationship heavily relies on communication and consent. Some Littles enjoy ageplay kink, some don't. But regardless of kink participation or not, there is no right or wrong way to be a Little.

[BabyPoppy]

Is your little aware of her regression? Is it something she is comfortable with and is it something you are comfortable with, too? Do you feel you can both negotiate a plan for safety when she is in a state of regression and do you have a way to pull her out of it safely if need be?

 

These are questions to think about before diving too deep into this with her. I have personal experience where my regression led to others being negatively effected when I before I knew I was regressing. 

My advice would be to move slowly. 

[Little Skittles]

On 3/16/2025 at 3:27 PM, Guest bigDadaM said:

So I hope I'm not breaking any rules having this discussion I'll preface by saying we are currently separated but my little loves all the cute stuff and being told what to do and given tasks and loves pacifiers.

so she is a ddlg little but she also has times where she actually reverts to a child like state sometimes non verbal, her voice tone changes, even cute talk like a child, her eyes and her face you can tell it changes and I must call her baby she calls herself baby.

I think she's also D.I.D along with BPD we have all the normal things you expect in a relationship and we have plenty of healthy conversations about consent because there are times she will revert to her little self when we are in the middle of intimate situations sometimes it is involuntary but she tells me she enjoys all the intimate things it makes her feel closer to her daddy and sharing something so special is very important for her and her little side.

Is there any other relationships like this obviously not everyone is sxual DDLG and that's fine but some are. 

Curious to find if there are others Littles who are also AGERE in DDLG relationship.

 

No judgement please

Yes! I am AgeRe, but have not yet crossed little mind with sex. Unsure if I would be able to — a personal perspective, not a judgemental one. If it stirs arousal, it's like waking up in adult mind. But then, I'm only just recently allowing myself to be little, letting others see little me, and brand new with daddys, so no idea if that dynamic will change. 

Not an easy question to ask OR answer lol, but glad you did because I didn't read comments yet and really want to see what others more knowledge of DDLG have to say on this subject. Thank you for that courage! 

Main reason I'm responding is because I was misdiagnosed DID. That's rare. Usually it's the other way around, going misdiagnosed for years and being treated for the wrong illness(es) until they figure it out. IF they figure it out. 

DID didn't make sense for me as I did not present the way I saw in others, with named personalities and such. I just dissociated with an extreme cycling level. It took 13yrs of therapy before the diagnosis was made, then three more to correct it as IFS (internal family systems). What others don't know about DID is most can keep it hidden, only allowing others to see when/if they choose. Not all, but most. The main person will retain control and hide the others if/when they don't feel safe. 

If she does have DID, the fact you two do communicate openly and honestly is probably why she feels safe enough with you to present. 

Then there's IFS. If not familiar: personalities come in parts — protector, parental figure (not being a parent, parenting yourself), inner/wounded child, and so on. Too much to explain fully, but around the ages of 5 thru 7, those parts fuse, and you start to become who you are as an individual. BUT not all fuse. Someone caught up struggling to cope with severe trauma during those years might not fuse. Being in a mental war zone does not allow that fusing as a means of survival. And IFS is much more common, though less known. Mine did not fuse. Dissociative Disorder can be an indicator though. At least, that is my understanding as that is my experience. It does not sound like she has the amnesia. IMO, that's a good sign she's present and fully giving consent. 

If it seems she is unable to control it though, there is the possibility any number of DDLG aspects could ultimately retraumatize her. As we are all different psychologically, it really depends on how she's wired, but if things look like they're going in that direction, definitely take those steps to ensure it doesn't. 

I'm no doctor, just have lots of personal experiences in this area and have done tons of psychologist-directed research. So nothing I say is meant to mislead or scare you or diagnose anyone. And I'm NOT an expert. There is a lot of conflicting info out there. I'm simply relaying what I've learned and passing along info you might want to check into. 

I'm sorry if all this has already been said. Like I said, I didn't read comments first. I just had to respond before I lost my words and while adult brain was in gear lol 

One final note... It could be that she is just letting herself be 100% free with her little side because she feels safe doing so with you, but the fact mental health issues are part of who she is, I highly suggest consulting with her therapist/psych workers to ensure it's a healthy choice for you both. Bringing DDLG up even in that setting can be terrifying, I know, but mine led me here sooo.... ya never know 🙃 

Wish you both the best 🖤🖤🖤

[littlegala82]

I’ve spoken to the potential Daddy I’m vetting about this some time ago and for me personally . Right now I’m still learning about myself . Even though it’s been five years that I’ve been little officially. I notice I do regress but sex is separate .You should have and open and honest dialogue with her when you can. 

Edited May 9 by littlegala82