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I'm just now getting in being a little but all the daddies I've talked too online insisted I send them nudes and jump straight to sexual things. This kinda isn't my style. I just wanna make my daddy happy and have him protect me. when I say no, they just assume I'm being a bratty little girl and not serious.

Basically what I'm asking is are there even any Daddies out there who would be willing to wait or never even have that aspect of the relationship? Or is it likely I'm never going to come across one?

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Yes, of course you will. As with all relationships, you have to meet a lot of people to find the one who's right for you. My Daddy is demisexual. We're married and very happy together. But it took me many years to find him-about 20 years more than your age now!
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Sadly, those are the types of people you'll find on the Internet. Occasionally you might find somebody who's worth your time, but those kinds of people are few and far between.

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Of course there are Daddies/Caregivers that would be far more respectful about things of the nature and I they aren't the abnormal ones here. I guess that we've just learnt to be lazy and put in less effort into our social interactions, especially when online, the good thing about this is that you wouldn't be wasting your time building a relationship with someone that just wants to look at pics of boobs and uses you simply as material to get off to. 

 

I've met a lot of genuinely nice people here, Daddies included, because for the most part you'll find respectful, kind people here that are in this lifestyle for the right reasons (at least in my book). So don't give up. There are a lot of people that wouldn't see you not wanting to instantly send them nudes an issue and they're pretty much the only deserving of your time. 

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Unfortunately, there are always going to be people like that out there but don't be discouraged in finding the right Daddy. There are plenty of Daddies/Caregivers who are genuine and just waiting to find a little just like you! Just ignore the creeps and keep on looking for your somebody special. He's out there waiting. :)

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Asexual and Gray-Ace people exist, that's an undeniable fact, and they exist in all aspects of society, including the ddlg community. If what you're looking for is specifically an asexual partner rest assured that the ddlg world is not entirely one of sex. As for the more direct issue of the specific people you're talking to demanding nudes that's something that unfortunately comes from the male dominating attitude which leads them to think they're entitled to that kind of stuff off the bat, which they aren't. I think it's important to stand up for yourself and let those people know that thinking they're just entitled to that kinda stuff isn't on at all.

 

Ddlg is a bit of an odd situation relationship wise because it's kind of outside the norm so you can't really just let it come out in the middle of the relationship, but making clear it's what you need at the start of a relationship can be weird from an intimacy perspective. You'll be okay though, you will find someone.

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Thank you everyone for replying. I've had sooooo many bad experiences that I just felt hopeless, and that if I wanted a relationship I would just have to "put out." Now I have hope, and I also know now that I think I'm gray-ace. It's nice to know the term for it, so I can tell someone off the bat. :) thanks again
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Guest Ginger-Kit

I had to deal with a lot of guys like you described (wanting to jump straight to sexual things). I'm demisexual personally and my Big Brother was totally okay with it :3 He said we'd wait as long as needed for me to be comfortable with him. So, they do exist, it just takes some time finding the right one! I'm sorry you had to go through people like that though, they stink >:c

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Im going trough a situation like this :( I really hope you find the right daddy for you <3 and reading all the good comments here really give me a lot of conffidence <3

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There is guys out there that will jump to something like nudes.. and It sucks when it happens. I was brought into the lifestyle by my daddy, and he would never ask me to do them knowing I wouldn't be OK with it. I got lucky and i'd never wanna change that I have a daddy, i very much enjoy the lifestyle now. My daddy looks out for me first and if im not ok with he gets it, a daddy is suposto take care of his babygirl/little. You will find a daddy that doesn't want those until you are OK or will be perfectly ok with the fact even if you wont ever wanna send those kid of things, sometime it takes a few try's to find a daddy like that, and I'm sure you will find a daddy who will suit you perfectly!

Don't lose hope! your perfect daddy is out there.

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I'm just now getting in being a little but all the daddies I've talked too online insisted I send them nudes and jump straight to sexual things. This kinda isn't my style. I just wanna make my daddy happy and have him protect me. when I say no, they just assume I'm being a bratty little girl and not serious.

Basically what I'm asking is are there even any Daddies out there who would be willing to wait or never even have that aspect of the relationship? Or is it likely I'm never going to come across one?

 

I'm a demi-switch! I've wondered the same thing from time to time, but I actually like being demisexual, as many others have said above, it makes it easier to cut through the riff raff of relationships and find people who focus on what's important. There are definately demisexual people in the ddlg scene! If it helps, I have two links in my profile, one to a definition, the other to a resource which I found very useful in helping me understand my own demisexuality, but also I put it there in the hopes that other people read it to. You could try something similar on your own profile, it might reduce wasted time.

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So i really just heard the term "demi sexual" about a week or two ago in a kik group. But immediatly identified with it and said to my little, "hey, thats me!" I definetly need to have a deep emotional connection and attachment to the one im with to have a sexual connection.

 

So yeah, i guess im a demi sexual Daddy...

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