How do I stop feeling pain from past Trauma?

[Snowyy]

So I don’t want to get into much detail as I have a hard time sharing my past but how do I stop feeling it? Like the pain every time I think it’s gone Im forced remember what happened and I don’t want top, it hurts soo bad and it makes me odd like everything I do in life is different to everyone else as it’s like a coping mechanism to keep me safe like I’m on edge and I try not to let it affect me but some of it was too bad and it disgusts me in a way as it happened but how do I fix it?? I don’t mean completely disappear like it never happened but how do I deal with it. Is there anyway to move forward without having to talk much about it like anything I can do to cope?? 

[MasterPhotog]

@Snowyy 

I’m really sorry you’re carrying this. What you’re describing makes so much sense, especially after going through something that hurt you deeply. Nothing about the way you’re reacting means you’re broken or “odd”, it means your mind and body learned how to survive when things weren’t safe. That on-edge feeling and those coping habits are signs of strength, even if they feel exhausting now.

Healing doesn’t mean pretending it never happened, and it doesn’t require you to relive or explain it in detail if you’re not ready. It’s okay to move forward slowly. The pain coming back doesn’t mean you’ve failed or gone backwards, it just means your system is still trying to protect you.

There are ways to cope without talking much about the past. Some people find grounding things helpful when memories hit, focusing on your breathing, noticing what you can see or feel around you, or doing something physical like walking or stretching to remind your body that you’re safe now. Writing things out privately, creating routines that help you feel steady, or having one small thing that brings comfort can also help take the edge off. None of this fixes everything overnight, and that’s okay.

Please be gentle with yourself. What happened was not your fault, and feeling disgust or pain about it doesn’t define who you are. You’re already doing something brave by wanting to heal. You don’t have to do this perfectly, and you don’t have to do it alone, support can look many different ways, at your pace, on your terms.

I’m really glad you reached out. You deserve peace, and even if it doesn’t feel like it right now, it is possible to move forward while still honoring what you’ve been through. 
 

[MissAnna]

Spoiler

Being a survivor of S.A. changes you. It reshapes how you see yourself, how you understand safety, how you move through the world. You learn how to survive before you ever learn how to rest. You become strong out of necessity, not choice.

That truth is heavy, and it still echoes through my nights. The things I went through, the things I witnessed, they don’t simply fade with time. Trauma has a way of lingering, of whispering when the world goes quiet.

Healing is not a straight line, it doesn’t come with a deadline or a finish flag. It takes time, it takes facing nightmares that don’t always make sense. It takes therapy, and often more therapy than you ever thought you’d need. And that doesn’t mean you’re weak, it means the wound was deep.

One thing that helped me was journaling. When thoughts loop endlessly in my mind, writing them down gives them somewhere to go. It’s called docking. Taking the pain out of your head and placing it on paper so it doesn’t keep racing, so it doesn’t keep owning every quiet moment.

You won’t forget what happened. That isn’t failure. Healing isn’t about erasing the past, it’s about time.

Time to breathe without bracing. Time to look in the mirror and slowly stop seeing only the broken child who spent years just trying to survive.

The way I coped was therapy. I know how hard it is to take that step. I know how vulnerable it feels. But it helped me understand something vital, what happened to me was not my fault. And what happened to you is not you fault either. Surviving does not define us as damaged. It defines us as resilient.

Please remember this:

You are not alone.

You are not broken beyond repair.

And you are worthy of being loved 

My door is always open if you need a friend

[SnuggleBunnyLily]

Hello!! I want to start by saying it makes complete sense that you want to move forward without having to live again every detail. Pushing yourself to "talk it out" before you’re ready can feel like being retraumatized again and again, and you don’t have to do that to find your peace. That on edge feeling you said, is your nervous system trying to protect you, it’s that your body is still operating in survival mode. I can tell you what worked for me, and what my ex therapist tolf me when i was 12, when memories or disgust hit, they aren't just thoughts, they are physical sensations, instead of trying to think your way out, try to calm the body: If you're feeling overwhelmed, splash ice cold water on your face or hold an ice cube, this resets the nervous system instantly. This worked  for me and take it with care, this mnay be work for me but not for you,  if the memories force themselves on you, try a to visualize it or do it physically: have a safe jar, when a memory or feeling starts to overwhelm you, put that specific "image" or "feeling" into the container and lock that. The disgust you do feel is an extreme common reaction to bad experiences, but it belongs to the event, not to you. You are the person who survived it, not the gross thing that happened. YOU ARE STRONG, YOU ARE VALID AND WHAT YOU FEEL IS VALID, i'm sending you hugs and lot of positive vibes, if you need to talk about it or even if you need someone, reach me. Sending you best wishes and hugs❤️❤️.

[redruffle41]

Hey @Snowyy. How are you feein today?

[Snowyy]

@redruffle41 in gooddc today u drinkvc but I ran out but I still sad and I not wanna be sadccdatse it no feel good but I feel happy too but not when I remember,,..