How do I stop feeling pain from past Trauma?

[Snowyy]

So I don’t want to get into much detail as I have a hard time sharing my past but how do I stop feeling it? Like the pain every time I think it’s gone Im forced remember what happened and I don’t want top, it hurts soo bad and it makes me odd like everything I do in life is different to everyone else as it’s like a coping mechanism to keep me safe like I’m on edge and I try not to let it affect me but some of it was too bad and it disgusts me in a way as it happened but how do I fix it?? I don’t mean completely disappear like it never happened but how do I deal with it. Is there anyway to move forward without having to talk much about it like anything I can do to cope?? 

[MasterPhotog]

@Snowyy 

I’m really sorry you’re carrying this. What you’re describing makes so much sense, especially after going through something that hurt you deeply. Nothing about the way you’re reacting means you’re broken or “odd”, it means your mind and body learned how to survive when things weren’t safe. That on-edge feeling and those coping habits are signs of strength, even if they feel exhausting now.

Healing doesn’t mean pretending it never happened, and it doesn’t require you to relive or explain it in detail if you’re not ready. It’s okay to move forward slowly. The pain coming back doesn’t mean you’ve failed or gone backwards, it just means your system is still trying to protect you.

There are ways to cope without talking much about the past. Some people find grounding things helpful when memories hit, focusing on your breathing, noticing what you can see or feel around you, or doing something physical like walking or stretching to remind your body that you’re safe now. Writing things out privately, creating routines that help you feel steady, or having one small thing that brings comfort can also help take the edge off. None of this fixes everything overnight, and that’s okay.

Please be gentle with yourself. What happened was not your fault, and feeling disgust or pain about it doesn’t define who you are. You’re already doing something brave by wanting to heal. You don’t have to do this perfectly, and you don’t have to do it alone, support can look many different ways, at your pace, on your terms.

I’m really glad you reached out. You deserve peace, and even if it doesn’t feel like it right now, it is possible to move forward while still honoring what you’ve been through. 
 

[SnuggleBunnyLily]

Hello!! I want to start by saying it makes complete sense that you want to move forward without having to live again every detail. Pushing yourself to "talk it out" before you’re ready can feel like being retraumatized again and again, and you don’t have to do that to find your peace. That on edge feeling you said, is your nervous system trying to protect you, it’s that your body is still operating in survival mode. I can tell you what worked for me, and what my ex therapist tolf me when i was 12, when memories or disgust hit, they aren't just thoughts, they are physical sensations, instead of trying to think your way out, try to calm the body: If you're feeling overwhelmed, splash ice cold water on your face or hold an ice cube, this resets the nervous system instantly. This worked  for me and take it with care, this mnay be work for me but not for you,  if the memories force themselves on you, try a to visualize it or do it physically: have a safe jar, when a memory or feeling starts to overwhelm you, put that specific "image" or "feeling" into the container and lock that. The disgust you do feel is an extreme common reaction to bad experiences, but it belongs to the event, not to you. You are the person who survived it, not the gross thing that happened. YOU ARE STRONG, YOU ARE VALID AND WHAT YOU FEEL IS VALID, i'm sending you hugs and lot of positive vibes, if you need to talk about it or even if you need someone, reach me. Sending you best wishes and hugs❤️❤️.

[redruffle41]

Hey @Snowyy. How are you feein today?

[Snowyy]

@redruffle41 in gooddc today u drinkvc but I ran out but I still sad and I not wanna be sadccdatse it no feel good but I feel happy too but not when I remember,,..