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Guest Starrbaby
I've been on this sight all day and I see photos of mostly white women and I wonder is finding a daddy going to be harder because of my race ,or is it just in my head ?
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Guest DaddyXavier

prefer Asian, then white, then hispanic, but if it's a good match race doesn't really matter that much to me. I'm sure many Daddies feel the same way.

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I wish I could say it doesn't make a difference, but I can't. However, I don't think it will be harder to find a daddy than it would be to find a boyfriend or any other kind of romantic partner. In fact, you probably have an advantage over the average girl, because just sharing the interest in DD/lg will make you more attractive to most of the people here, and you might have a wider age range to choose from than most people do.

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Guest Lillydoll
Most of the time its always an issue, it is something that will always be there, you just have to hope and have faith you will find someone who accepts who you are...but at times having hope and faith is not enough...sadly
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Guest StainedBlack

It just depends on who you find, shared interests, and mutual attraction. I'm sure there's tons of Daddy's the prefer dark skinned littles. I'm also sure there's a lot more like me that don't care about skin color and would rather find someone cute and compatible.

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I wouldn't say it's just in your head, but at the same time, it shouldn't discourage you from going out there and finding your Daddy. I'm a Latina, and even though I know that's not everyone's cup of tea, I also know that I wouldn't want a Daddy who thought that was an issue. In a way, it kind of works in my favor. So, just go for it. In the immortal words of Kevin Hart, "You do you boo boo!" Put your best foot forward, and you're sure to find what you're looking for. 

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Guest Don Pablo

sure race might be an issue for some people, but that applies to white/black/asian etc equally

 

everyone has their own preferences :^)

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Everyone has their preference and some people don't care about color but it's sadly true that the community shows and praises white girls. Everything you'll see will most likely be masters looking for '"fair skin or pale" which is just basically white (petite)girls. Yet I'm proof that it's possible because I've had a few mentors, masters and daddys! Just make sure you don't get discouraged. Dd/lg might be a bit whitewashed but there are many people who don't care about skin color and will like you for you! Just keep looking, I know it might seem like there aren't a lot of us (poc littles) or that we're not in high demand ( on this site) by dominates but there are tons of dd/lg couples that are interracial or are both poc! It's not in your head and it may seem like it's hard because all you see are white women but there are poc littles and daddy's! 

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Everyone is wired differently. If it helps I'm personally very attracted to tan or dark skinned girls. For me in any case, there are all sorts of other compatibility issues that rank waaaaaaaaaay higher than race.

 

In a dom/sub sense a white guy with a non-white girl can be politically problematic, and depending on how strongly either partners feels about racial politics that could be an ethical issue. For others the taboo nature of 'race play' can in and of itself be a turn on. So long as people are respected as people rather than fetish objects I personally take no issue.

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Guest NYGuy
Its definitely an issue but it goes both ways. Daddy's and littles. It's nothing unique to ddlg though you'll see it happen just as often or frequently as in the real world. But nothing to worry too much about or let it get to you. If you spend time loooking the right person for you is also spending that time looking. Eventually you'll find the right kind of people for you.
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Guest BittyKitty
I have noticed that the majority of members here (daddies and littles) are white, but that never bothered me because I have never seen anyone say anything that might imply poc's are not welcome (except maybe 2 ads in the personals section, compared to tons that actually state race isn't an issue) On the contrary, everyone is so wonderfully accepting of everything from race to size and even age. I'm Asian, I've been here a month and most people I've interacted with are not aware of my ethnicity, but I lurk a lot and I honestly haven't seen anything that would discourage anyone of any ethnicity. I feel quite welcome here and I hope you will enjoy your stay as much as I have :)
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Guest kyril

Yeah some people prefer a certain type of little/daddy, though every person is different and you really shouldn't be putting too much thought on that. If you feel race can be an issue, just mention it, it actually helps you filter them out without needing to get hurt by it. I want to think that for every little/daddy there is someone out there, just be patient and keep on the lookout, there will be someone who will like you and respect you for the person you are.

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Race makes a difference for a lot of people. It's almost never racism so much as what traits a person happens to be attracted to. I don't think it will make finding a Daddy hard though. It's not like DomDaddies are inherently attracted to white women. There are so many thousands of them floating around.
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Race is a pretty big problem and something that is rarely discussed in the ddlg community. I've seen quite a few daddy's who are adamant about ONLY caring for light skinned , petite littles. But like many have said, I've also had quite a few daddy's who weren't black and liked me for me, skin color be damned. Just keep on trekking girl. 

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It is an issue. If you're not pale, white, and petite than you aren't going to get much praise going on for you being a little. Despite the fact that the majority of this community praises those specific traits you can find those that aren't. It was getting depressing for me on tumblr since all the girls I followed only reblogged other white littles (even the colored littles reblogged white littles only). But with enough time you will eventually find not only a Mommy/Daddy who will love you for who you are but you'll find other littles like yourself to make being a part of this community fun. I was able to find one myself despite my complexion.

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Guest buddhagirl

I haven't posted on this topic because it triggered a lot of stuff for me and I needed to think. Here's what I want to say about this. I do not have a race preference in partners. I don't care what color you are, and I don't really understand people that do.

 

I know that some people say they have racial preferences in partners. Is it really the color of the skin, or is it a perception of the type of person they are because of their race, their culture, or something stemming from a generalization or stereotype? Black skin (and all shades between my ghostly white and black) is beautiful. BUT, studies show that men greatly favor white womem. On OKCupid, a dating site in the U.S., they found that men who publicly said that race didn't matter to them, still chose white women as potential dates 97% of the time! Racism is real. Racism is a disease in the U.S. (I won't speak for countries I don't reside in) and those that hide behind the line, "It's just my personal preference to only date my same race" upset and offend me. BUT, I acknowledge that for some it may be that skin color is just a personal preference, the same as height, hair color, etc. I'll admit that I don't really think those preferences are very valid, though. In reality, would someone REALLY not date an amazing person who has all of the qualities they want just because their hair is black instead of blonde? That just seems crazy to me. 

 

Bottom line for me is that race is an issue everywhere. Period. In dating, some people have "preferences" and others don't care one bit. It may help to know that there are other groups that certainly face prejudice and discrimination in dating--people that are overweight, people over 40, non-gender-normative people, etc. The world is full of every kind of person you can imagine, but our society has created a false ideal of perfection that very few people are actually like. Sadly, those that don't fit into that false "ideal" often feel isolated, inferior, discriminated against, undesirable and hopeless. There are many people out there that will love you inside and out, but you will probably have to look a little harder than the 19 year old, tiny blonde girl with big blue eyes.

 

I'm sorry you have to deal with bullshit prejudice. As a half Native American (Crow) and half European American, I feel both anger and guilt and an incredible responsibility to face racism and change it now.

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Depends on the person. I don't really care about race, probably because I'm culturally/racially diverse myself-Latina and Black. It's different for everyone probably.

I do have a fear that I won't be able to find a caregiver because of my skin tone, because the ideal little always seems to be this tiny petite girl with long hair and pale skin. While I'm pretty tiny myself, skin color always does worry me a tiny bit. But if I really can't get a Daddy because of my complexion that says more about daddies than it does about me.

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Depends on the person. I don't really care about race, probably because I'm culturally/racially diverse myself-Latina and Black. It's different for everyone probably.

I do have a fear that I won't be able to find a caregiver because of my skin tone, because the ideal little always seems to be this tiny petite girl with long hair and pale skin. While I'm pretty tiny myself, skin color always does worry me a tiny bit. But if I really can't get a Daddy because of my complexion that says more about daddies than it does about me.

I'm 'blacixan' and I find that its sometimes a problem too. I'm also not petite, nor am I slight. I find that sometimes I probably put too much in what they might think than they do.

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Guest NeedToServe
To some it does, to some it doesn't. And it's not always a matter of prejudice. Sometimes its simply personal preference. I have dated black guys, but for some reason I'm not attracted to asian guys, I have no race issues, I just don't find them attractive. Same as I don't find short guys or younger guys attractive.
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We all belong to the human race. A color is just a color. Anyone who judges people based on their skin needs their head checked, no offence to anyone reading this and feeling attacked.

 

People need to judge on personality not appearance! And this is coming from a person who had german parents and grew up in spain to be called a Nazi for years on end.

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We all belong to the human race. A color is just a color. Anyone who judges people based on their skin needs their head checked, no offence to anyone reading this and feeling attacked.

 

People need to judge on personality not appearance! And this is coming from a person who had german parents and grew up in spain to be called a Nazi for years on end.

Race is more than color, it encompasses a shared history, identity, ancestry via anthropology and intersects with culture. So I disagree with your humanist stance. Race can even be determined by genetic testing and skull structure. 

 

To the OP, it matters to some and it doesn't matter to some. Just be yourself and don't worry about it. We all have our preferences whether they be weight, face, personality, sex, or even race. There's nothing wrong with either of those as long as we're respectful to each other.

 

I won't let others make me feel ashamed for liking what I like. 

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Guest Mad.Max.1080

I'm new on this site, but I can tell you, there's amazing people here, you will find someone with your same interests, race has nothing to do

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Guest Zephy

Important thing is to love yourself and find someone who would love and respect you for who you are.

Don't be someone thinking everyone should like you - that will never be the case and it's not just because of what skin color you wear.

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Guest cottoncandyheart

Unfortunately for some it does matter, and I too have seen daddies looking for only white, light-skinned etc, girls. While this may be their preference (we obviously all have preferences) they shouldn't completely disregard darker-skinned girls. My daddy is darker skinned to me (Middle-Eastern background) and it has never bothered me because his personality, compatibility to me and the way we connected is far more important. Hopefully daddies/doms can look beyond just skin colour, good luck X

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Guest NeedToServe
Sorry, but yes, most people need physical attraction also, to different degrees, whether that be body type, age, height, age, ethnicity, colour, hair length, and any number of other "superficial" things. Its just how it works. Some don't care about those things, but that doesn't make them better people than the ones that do care. If it's a prejudice, of course that's different, but simple taste and preference, no, everyone is entitled to have those things. Edited by NeedToServe
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