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SquishyLulu

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Hello guys! Lulu here :D

 

I just wanted some insight on this situation about something is all. Feedback is appreciated.

 

 

So my birthday is July 14th which is on Saturday this month. My daddy has a friend, we'll just call her Sarah, and Sarah's birthday is July 17th. Sarah wants to have a party on July 14th because her birthday is on a weekday. She invited me and daddy, but I really don't like her that much or care too much about her tbh. We had plans to go to New York for my birthday weekend (so friday the 13, saturday 14, sunday 15), but the plans were canceled. Sarah knew we canceled the plans, and decided that the 14th was gonna be her party. My mom wanted to take me and the bf (boyfriend) and a few friends out for my birthday instead of New York and I told daddy that, but he still really wants to go to Sarah's party. Daddy is also the type to get mad over if i don't go or if WE don't go. I don't know what to do. If we did go to Sarah's party we would be celebrating her and not me, but its my birthday and i told daddy that, but this party seems more important then I do. Is it petty that I don't want to go because we aren't celebrating ME on MY day?

 

Thanks!

 

SO update, we are not going to the party, but Sarah was extremely upset and started calling me rude names. Daddy says don't worry about it and he'll make her apologize and that it was his fault it happened. Idek I think Sarah just needs to go.

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Firstly if this girls issue was that her birthday was in the middle of the week and that's why she wanted to have it on the weekend then why in the HECK could she just not have it on the sunday??? Massive confusion aside it's done now and it's her free will to have it on whatever day she wants however unless we're going to his 99 year old grandma's birthday party my Daddy ain't making me go anywhere else on my birthday! :p Seriously though like i get if he just wanted to pop in to say hello and give her a present etc; but any longer that that I'd be pitching a fit, and he'd better have something REALLLLY nice planned for you during the day to make up for it :p
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So his gf is having a party and his friend is having a party on the same day. The logic seems simple to me lol. I would think it would be best to go to ur gf party over a friend. It might be possible that he thinks y'all would have more fun at his friends party vs whatever ur mom have plans, since the thrill of New York have been canceled. Still, he should support whatever u want to do since u are his girl and it is ur special day. My opinion anyway. I get why u would want to feel special and celebrated vs watching someone else get that attention. If a compromise must be made, then I agree with Lola, that u guys could possibly go wish her a happy birthday then soon leave to do yall own thing.
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I hate my birthday and I hate celebrating it, yet I would still be pissed if Daddy insisted on celebrating another woman's birthday over mine. Especially a woman I didn't care for. Especially if back up plans were already made. AND if that weekend had already held a "Daddy and Me" themed and then celebrating a different woman. Like... petty? Nah. Its called respect.

 

Like I said, I fucking hate my birthday. It has always been used as a weapon against me. Even though I HATE my  birthday, Daddy insists that he and I spend a day together, just us, to celebrate me. Well, celebrate whatever I want really. The point is, your birthday obviously means something to you, and in my opinion, it is a dick move of Sarah and a negligent move on your Daddy's.

 

HOWEVER 

 

With all of that said... is your Daddy your BF? Or are you poly because it sounds like you're referencing 2 different men. If your mom made plans with you, your BF, friends, etc but NOT your Daddy, then yes. I think it is very petty to be upset for him to go to a friend's party while you're at a different dinner/gathering. 

 

But if your Daddy is your BF then I stand with what I said above.

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He is getting mad at you as YOU want to celebrate YOUR bd in certain way? Wtf.

It's your day, you decide birthday girl :)

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In my opinion, I would see that as a HUGE red flag. It’s your birthday, but your s/o wants to spend it celebrating some other girls birthday...? That’s a dick move and honestly that’s pretty suspicious to me. I think you guys need to sit down and maybe have a long talk about his relationship with Sarah. It’s just odd to me that he would rather spend YOUR day with her...? Definitely talk to him and express any concerns you have. And also tell him you don’t really care for her therefore you don’t want to go. It’s your birthday, do what makes you happy. And if he can’t be supportive then that’s an issue.
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Guest CastlePrincess

Not petty at all... I would be furious.

And definitely questioning why he thinks that's acceptable and why he can't understand your feelings on this.

I hope you get it sorted.x

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Guest DeadStarsStillBurn

Sounds like daddy is the petty one if he gets angry over you not going to an event when you had another event planned in advance...

Any daddies reading this: don't do that shit to people, especially not to littles. :(

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grrrrr your Daddy better have something AMAZING for you as a giftie, then!! like OMG, toats not cool pops! I am behind you one thousand percent!!!! Please keep us in the loop as to what happened hunni!!!

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No, you’re not being petty at all! It’s your birthday, your day! It only happens once a year so you should be able to celebrate yourself lol. Sorry for saying this but unless Sarah is a really good friend to him, your daddy is being a butthead. And a selfish one.

 

I understand it might be hard to be in a position where you have to like, choose someone over another person in a situation but here’s what I think: If your daddy insists on going to Sarah’s party, you on and celebrate your birthday with your mom and your friends because YOU DESERVE IT! It’s your day and no one can take it away from you. You and your daddy can maybe celebrate your birthday next weekend just the two of you doing something fun together, try suggesting that to him. Good luck!

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Not petty at allllllll. In fact I had a similar situation to this not too long ago and it wasnt pretty...Yall need a sit down to discuss this. Explain exactly what you have said to us. If he cant understand your feelings and still wants to go then that's just not cool
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