So I have never been in a polyamorous relationship but I met this couple and they are so sweet! So I am a female (I’m 19) and it is a male and female couple. They are so adorable and they are amazing to me. I found out they was a DDLG couple and it really interested me! I have only ever read about DDLG in fan fictions and stories and I really wanted to try it out! I have been getting to know them and they explained to me about dummies and stuff. I decided to buy myself two to see what they was like because I have never had one (not even as a child).
As I have been getting to know them, I found out that they wasn't really a sexual couple (she isn't bothered about sex, he is and I'm a virgin). The DDLG aspect is not usually sexual but she told me that she is really bratty. She also said if I get into a relationship with them, that she will be jealous for a while and I understood that because obviously that is her boyfriend. In a relationship, I am considered clingy and sometime (if not a lot of the time) need reassurance that I am not annoying people. Earlier, I asked them a question (I was wanting reassurance) and she snapped at me, telling me that me wanting that constant reassurance is affecting her mental health. They have not exactly been trying to get me involved with the DDLG community or even that aspect of their relationship even after I told them I brought two dummies.
I feel like they have not properly thought about bringing a third person into their relationship and that he is ready for it mentally and she is not. I don't want to be dragged in and my feelings getting hurt when I really like them and I wanted to experience the DDLG aspect too.
I don't know what kind of little I would be, we haven't spoke about it.
I just feel really insecure about it.
Update: I have tried to talk to them about it, to see if they are ready especially her. But he just told me to chill out and she didn’t reply to me. I really like them both but they never really try to involve me in the DDLG side of it either. This is really hurting me because I care a lot about them but I am left feeling sad and lonely.
I have had to ask my friend about DDLG because they haven’t really given me any information ☹
Honestly I don't think she wants me in the DDLG part of their relationship, as she keeps telling me "it's not for everyone" and "don't feel like you need to be in it" when the reason they wanted a third person in the relationship was to be a little with her, so this is leaving me really disheartened and confused
Edited by Emilyjwalker123, 10 May 2020 - 04:52 PM.