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@TeenyRena @Prince @Little Nyx @Aikko @LissyLu @littlegala @Jazzylove22 @Beanie19 @Kyuu_chan_san @SquirtleSquad @Ariguin @kimmybunny Alright! So this pole will stay open technically until Monday because it is essentially yalls ticket into the group read and we have one person left to vote. Buuuut ... we have a winner! Yearning For Her by Tiffany Roberts! Thank you all for voting in a timely manner and I am so excited to read with yall. Watch out for an announcment and I will also be making and explaining the topics for the whole thing so check it all out over the next few days so you are familiar with it all. I unpinned all the previous books topics so all the pinned ones will be up to date and important. Also yall can go ahead and get ahold of the book! If you guys could tell me how long you think it will take you to get it and update me when you do have it that would be amazing. This is gonna be amazing all!!! Pigtail

Hi everyone, My Daddy and I were chatting the other day about the types of follow requests we get and how frustrating it can be when people don't take the time to read before sending a follow request. We've taken the time to share about ourselves and also to put in some caveats about things that are not go areas for us . . . And yet we still get follow requests from folks who fall into those groups or areas where we've explicitly identified we don't interact. Please folks, not just with us but with anyone, read their profile and respect it. On the flip side, if folks are reaching out please take some time to fill in your profile with something. It's really hard to tell if there's anything in common if your profile is blank.

🐒🫧 Hello everyone !!! My birthday was this last Thursday , I worked on my actual birthday but that’s totally okay ! I got Friday off and I took this entire week off as well ! 😎 This week is being spent doing whatever the fuck I wanna do - but I thought I would share my birthday weekend ! Thursday night the men had me open my gifts. I felt so spoiled and I got lots of things. I always feel guilty getting gifts especially as many as the men get me … but I am so grateful ! I got so many PopMart items that I wanted and some other things as well that really had my eye too. These are some of the things I got , they include exclusive PopMart items and Labubus , jewelry , cameras ! Then on Friday we went to the zoo ! I was super focused on the animals so I didn’t take a ton of pictures , but here’s a couple cute photos I got ! Saturday was spent at the lake with the men , then thrifting and Monday and today I went to the lake by myself ! I’ve been spending all my week time so far outside on the water and I’ve been happy as a clam. I’ve gotten burnt and taken tons of photos of nature and my Labubus and other buddies. I plan on going to the lake again on Thursday and Friday also !!! Here is some of the paddle boarding and lake photos : Tomorrow I am going to get up early and workout , then I’ll get all pretty for the day and head to Tacoma ! I’m gunna go to the brand new PopMart store that opened there and I’m going to try to find a couple of new dresses for work and maybe some work shoes. I’m gunna try to get to the mall right when they open , and I’m gunna spend my day really slowly and just soak up all my free time. I might even treat myself to a boba tea or a snack out :3 Thats been my birthday weekend / vacation so far. Thanks for sticking around to the end if you did ! I don’t really have many people in my life and I don’t have family , so you guys are who I share my life with 😇

My entry for this month

Good morning all you brave amazing beautiful people on here! I hope you all have had amazing adventures and are making memories to last a lifetime. I wanted to come on here and to remind you all that you do matter. Sometimes life can make you feel unworthy of being seen or being loved. Life at times can be so cruel and unfair to us. Its time like those that we need reminders that we are seen, we are worthy of being loved, we are valued and we do matter. All of you deserve love and happiness, you all are so brilliant, so brave and so beautiful! I'm extremely proud of you all, I'm so grateful for you all and I'm truly blessed to have a beautiful community as you all. Don't let others try to take your sunshine away, because you deserve to let your light shine and to be seen. You all deserve your fairy tale ending and you definitely deserve to be someones first choice not last. You are beautiful just the way you are and you are perfect just being you. You don't have to change to get someone's approval because being yourself is more than enough. I'm still in your corner cheering you all on and I'm so proud of you all. I won't ever stop saying that because it's true, I am proud of you all. From the bottom of my heart thank you all for being wonderful friends who I consider family. Until next time remember you matter, you are loved and you are worthy of being loved 💕

thank you! I’m so happy 😁 Everyone did awesome!

my entry

I am one of those people that you will never see without some kind of knitting or crochet in my hand! I thought 🤔 I need to find some more fellow Littles that also love fibre arts and we can share all our cute creations with each other! That being stuffies, clothing, blankets, home decor anything at all! and if you’re reading this and you don’t know how to knit or crochet, let’s help each other and I’m sure me and others will love to teach you! this can also include any kind of fibre art. I also spin and dye my own yarn to! And I’ll be happy to teach anyone that would love to learn Xx💖🩷

@Daddy Bear 77 @Aikko @littlegala @SquirtleSquad @Ariguin @kimmybunny @Little Nyx @Beanie19 @Prince @LissyLu @Jazzylove22 I will be working on the pole to vote for our next read over the next few days! Trying to give folks a few days to jump on if they want. In the meantime I want to let yall know of a few things we do here. Wednesdays are our "get to know eachother" chats. I am moving the time up so at 6pm PST we hop into the chat here https://www.ddlgforum.com/chatbox/room/4-pigtails-playpen-reading-chat/ And we just chat about whatever. Just meant to help us know those we are reading with. Not required or anything but I would love to have yall. Second is something ipen to all Pigtails Playpen members not jyst NNC. And that is our Sunday Reading sprints. Essentially from 4-7pm PST we hope into the same chat as above and we all read together. I put a timer on and keep track of all our pages. Last week we read 792 over the three hours! So please feel free to join any of these! The finaly thing is I am working on making profiles for all NNC members. Here is a link that explains it all and you will have to answer the questions but they should be fun and each will be made by yours truly And finally we have a special badge for us. I usually wait to award to make sure people will actually participate so make sure you are reacting commenting and participating! Thank you all! Pigtail

Don't be so busy making others happy that you forget to do things that make you happy! Such true words we sometimes forget we need to hear. Sometimes we get so caught up in making others happy we forget to make ourselves happy. Remember you are deserving to be someones first choice not last. Don't be a side character in your story book. You deserve someone's attention for who you are not for what you can give them. You are so loved and needed, don't allow negative thoughts to steal your sunshine from you. Your worth isn't measured by likes or views, you are amazing just the way you are. You are beyond amazing and you are phenomenal just being you No one can replace you and no one will ever be you, because you one of a kind. You are perfect just the way you are, I'm so proud of you. You don't need to change to make people notice you, being you is more than enough Until next time remember you matter, you are loved and you are worthy of being loved 💗

👋 Hullo! SO many good things to touch on here! I'm sure you'll get allot of inciteful responses to this but I'll throw in my 2 cents! I think the definitions to these things are a little loose and flexible, but I would not consider them interchangeable. I'm also a submissive and have been in this community and living the lifestyle for almost 8 years now and have observed allot of different people, behaviors and relationships and made a little glossary so i'll add that below: Glossary of some terms, based on my experience and research: experience and identity can vary from person to person, this should not be taken as fact. (Edit - added extra disclaimer ) ✨Littles: Someone who feels/acts/identifies with an age younger than themselves, or perhaps someone who is just young at heart and enjoys the softer things in life. A little doesn’t have to have a specific age in mind or have a little space, but they often do. ✨Middle: A type of little who tends to enjoy activities catering to older children and teens. They may be more rebellious and independent than younger littles. ✨Little space: A mindset in which a little taps into their inner child, usually as a form of play or a way to destress by removing oneself temporarily from the adult world and allowing them to enjoy activities and experiences without being burdened by societies rules or expectations of how an ‘adult’ should act. ✨Regression: A defense mechanism where a person reverts to coping mechanisms used during earlier life stages. This is usually involuntary and often a result of stress or hardship - but may also be a healthy learned coping strategy! Some littles may experience regression, but regression itself is not necessarily associated with littles or little space. - Ex: Someone biting their nails or sucking their thumb when stressed, a driver having a tantrum (road rage) due to traffic, Wetting the bed for the first time in years after experiencing a traumatic event, and other skill regression resulting from stress which can me emotional, physical or a combination of both. As the humanly flawed Neurodivergent individual I am, I can experience significant skill regression when I'm burnt out or stressed. ✨ Age- Regression: is when someone reverts to behaviors, thoughts, or emotions associated with a younger age than their current chronological age. It can be a coping mechanism for dealing with stress but that is not necessarily the case. Age- regression can be a healthy and positive experience.(edit- added separate definition for age-regression vs regression) ✨The Inner Child: The capability to experience qualities associated with childhood such as playfulness, wonder, exhilaration, innocence and sensitivity. It is also a place of vulnerability that can hold onto childhood traumas, frustrations, fears, pain, resentments and anger. This is not inherently associated with Little space, regression, or age-play and is just part of the human experience. ✨Age-play: A form of roleplay between one or more consenting adults where one or both parties act younger/older than their biological age. Age-play can be non-sexual, sexual, or something in between. This is perhaps more relevant when there are specific ages and roles in mind, like during scenes or roleplay. ✨Caregiver: a person in a CG/L relationship (platonic, sexual or otherwise) that willingly and enthusiastically takes on a caregiving role. Caregivers may like being called Mommy, Daddy, Auntie, Uncle, babysitters, or really any other term. This is in regards to a relationship dynamic or roleplay between consenting adults and is not in any way associated with actual family members. ✨DDlg – Daddy Dom/little girl ✨MDlg – Mommy Dom/little girl ✨DDlb – Daddy Dom/little boy ✨MDlb – Mommy Dom/little boy ✨CG/L: Caregiver/Little, this is a gender-inclusive term that I feel puts emphasis on the caregiving role instead of a dominant role, though d/s may still be involved. (list pulled partly from one of my previous post) Additional takes: You do not have to be a little to enjoy coloring, collecting stickers, enjoy cute clothes or watch reruns of old nostalgic cartoons. People can just like what they like and there doesn't need to be any deeper labels or explanation to it. There are also littles who are alternative, or littles that don't like the stereotypical little things but still feel young at heart and prefers to see the world through youthfully optimistic eyes. Being a little is not about fitting an aesthetic or liking certain things(thou that can certainly play into it!), it's more about vibes and personal identity so it can very wildly from person to person. Regression, as touched on in my list, is a bit of a different thing than just being little or experiencing little space. If you have a friend who regresses it's important not to assume what that means for them, be supportive of individual experience by asking how they define their own regression and how one may be able to support them. Having an open dialog is important with pretty much everything in this community as things can be very individual and different person to person. One person may have very positive experiences with regression while someone else may struggle with it and it's important that everyone is seen and validated. (edited for clarity) Age-Play is more associated with the act of roleplaying a certain age or scenario, allot of littles and CGs are age-players but they don't necessarily have to be. Rules can have many different purposes depending on the relationship and the end goal! Allot of rules can lean into the D/S side of things but it can also look more like having an accountability buddy rather than a strict dom. Why a little might have rules: (not a complete list at all) Encouragement to perform necessarily daily tasks Encouragement to better ones self or build skills Establishing a routine Help build healthy coping skills Give some control over daily life to a partner/CG (sexual or non sexual) Establish more strict protocols, often more associated with D/S Not all rules have punishments, and all punishments should be brought up beforehand, explained during, discussed after, consented to, and be proportionate to the rule broken. (psa: silent treatment is never a good punishment) Sorry for the rambling!

Hello, my name is Lynn. I am new to the forum and to the dynamics of a DD/LG or having a caregiver, and new to it all. I am curious to learn more about the little space and how to explore it. I was told the best way to learn is to ask other little/middles directly and to read on the topic through forums and other things. I would greatly appreciate it if anyone is willing to share/communicate their experiences and knowledge. Some general information about me is that I am naturally pretty childish- I've been called "the little sister" of my friend groups, even though I am typically the oldest or second oldest - because of this, some friends I asked who have experience in dynamics suggested I might be a little / middle - so I am trying to educate myself properly. What does little space feel like? How did you find out you were a little / middle? And how did you figure out where you landed in the space? Some things that I have started to notice about myself that have led me to explore this possibility: I've noticed that when something akin to rejection happens, the emotion feels big and overwhelming. I can't handle it or regulate my emotions and feelings, and I want to lie in bed, cuddle up to my pillows and blankets, or my plushies. Or when I want things, I make grabby hands and say "gib" without really a second thought because I feel playful / happy and tend to use baby talk or a higher-pitched tone. I get called bratty / gremlin when I have too much energy or whiny. I love taking naps - I like cartoons/anime, singing, drawing, coloring, more so coloring than drawing. I find plushies adorable- and like soft, squishy things that can bring comfort. This side of me is pretty new - without trauma dumping, I was in a bad living situation beforehand, and now I am in a good and positive environment where I can be myself without restriction- and I am realizing that I might be a little / middle. Anyway, the moral of this post is... Hi, I am Lynn- I would love to chat and learn more about the community, be educated, and meet others.

This is a for fun picture I colored the other day! I looooooooovvvveee Strawberry Shortcake!!! 🍓 ❤️🥰

Here are this month's submissions for the coloring contest. Y'all know what to do. Good luck everyone. Voting will close Saturday the 2nd SweetLittleDreamer SquirtleSquad Prince MissAnna littlegala LittleAmbi Little Nyx Lil_K47 Daddy Bear 77 BabyPoppy

welcome to my life experience! semi wise words from an older gal. i've probably been there, done that, own the T-shirt and could probably write the book! 😉 hey Ya'll!! So, its not very often you'll see me make a serious post. I tend to keep my posts light hearted, often poking fun at myself or randomly posting funnies to other folks pages. I'm a big believer in laughter is the best medicine! and if I can make one person a day smile and or laugh at something I've said or done, then I feel I'm contributing to a greater whole of good karma! I tend to be a constant jokester, I'm very quirky , and often awkward ! So I don't claim to be eloquent writer or have a lot of great advice to impart, but you'll often see me offering some kind words of encouragement to anyone I think I needs them. What I can offer are a few observations, and some insights from someone who has a lot of life experience in general. in just the short month that I've been a part of this community, I've already seen a lot of young ladies and gentlemen fly through here. a number of people have made some insightful posts recently about about slowing things down and truly taking your time in getting to know someone. So this is more of a supplement to those posts, and me throwing my two cents in. To give you a little backstory of where I'm trying to go with this: before I joined this community, years ago I was very active in the swinging community. and no, this is not an invitation nor a ploy to get you to invite me into your relationship! As people grow and mature, their needs, wants and desires change and grow with them. And for me, that is very much what happened. Although I made some wonderful friends, I got to a point where I no longer wanted to be a back up singer in somebody else's love song. I wanted to find someone of my own to write a duet with. so I began to read more and explore different things. From the age of 24 to about 37, I was in and out of the swinging scene. I moved to where I live now probably around 12 years ago and although I am no longer actively participating in swinging events, I have still managed to maintain the friendships with the couples that I met that very first year that I lived here! I have learned a lot during my time in the Kink community simply by trial and error and by learning from my own mistakes and the mistakes that I see others making. The group that I spent the most time with, we were a large group of friends who got together every weekend and at the end of the night if clothes started coming off, well then, more fun for everyone! 😉 over the years people came in and out of our group, and you could always tell who the couples were that were not going to make it. likewise you could point out the single folks who were there constantly stirring the pot counterclockwise and causing all the drama! Fortunately those folks never seemed to stay around long. here Ive noticed a lot of young ladies and gentlemen making posts saying you know, they're lonely , depressed, overwhelmed , whatever..., and then they disappear never to be seen or heard from again. So I guess really what I'm trying to say is, if you are just flying through here checking your personal and not stopping to explore the site and to stopping to making friends, you are truly doing yourself a disservice! your missing out on building some great lifelong friendships /relationships! This truly is a community full of people who care and who have been where you have been at some point in their life. And if you stop and take the time to smell the roses, so to say, you'll find that the people here will offer you great advice, they will offer you comfort, they will share in your joy and triumphs and be a shoulder for you to lean and cry on during your trials. We will be here for all of your ups and downs should you take the time to get to know us! if you have to take a step back for a little while to reevaluate what you're doing, I totally get that, but please find your way back! Important things I think every little and daddy should remember: #1 you are nobody's play thing! #2 you are nobody's ATM! #3 you are a person worth knowing! if anyone is not treating you as such they are not worth your time or effort! # 4 be truthful with yourself and with others You're gonna talk to a lot of people here and you're not gonna click with everyone at least not romantically. for me, even if I don't click with someone romantically as long as they haven't been pushy or a jerk or tried to take advantage of my giving nature , then I can be adult enough to simply remain friends. #5 make lemonade!- I say it often and I truly mean it! I said it just today actually . when life throws lemons at you , make lemonade! And pass it out! You can always find something positive in your day whether it's something tiny, just that one thing is still enough to keep the momentum going, you just have to do some searching sometimes to find the light! (and ya know, if anything, you can always use those lemons to beam anybody in the head that annoys you!! 😉🤣🤣) If you took the time to actually read through this whole post then I hope you found something useful in here, something thought provoking to make you take another look at what you're truly doing here! peace, love, and happy thoughts, ~K

This is so true, it is a relationship that you build with someone, regardless if they say it's just a dynamic. Feelings will always come into play when entering a dynamic or relationship whichever way you want to call it. I'm so sorry you dont feel valued or even worthy. Remember we are here for you, you have a giant community behind you that will support you. Please remember you truly do matter, you are worthy of love and you are valued.

Just wanted to share the cutest game I found on Steam: Spirit City Lofi Sessions. It's a cozy, gamified productivity tool, with avatar creation, room decor, and collecting adorable spirit pets. The productivity tools include a Pomodoro timer, to-do list, journal, and habit tracker. You earn credits for completing tasks, which you can use to upgrade your outfits and room decor. Might be a useful way for Littles to get rewards, and it's just really sweet.

This is @SweetLittleDreamer entry for the coloring contest

I forgot I did these this week!!!

Alright the following folks have expressed interest, responded to the rules, and are officially added for our next read: @Daddy Bear 77 @Prince @LissyLu @Ariguin @SquirtleSquad @littlegala @Little Nyx @Beanie19 @kimmybunny @Aikko @Jazzylove22 @TeenyRena @Kyuu_chan_san @MyMy If you arnt on this list then I either missed it or you still need to exspress interest or comment on the rules. These will be the only folks who's vote on our next book will be counted. (I will add names to this list as peiple jump in so please speak up if you want to join us, I am happy to have you) Can't wait to read with yall.

Hi, hello. Okay, firstly that confusion completely and utterly valid. Now this might be more confusing but yes and no to everything! Yes they can be used interchangeably and they aren't always the same thing. So I'm a little, so a little in general can be anyone on the little side of the dynamic so think littles, middles, babygirl/boys. A little specifically out of these is a person who regresses or plays an age below 10 ish. Age regression is different for everyone so I'll explain this for me, it's like I'm emotionally, mentally that age. Age regression can also refer to regressing in relation to mental health. Age playing or being an age player is kinda more role play with different ages involved often sexually but not always, this can be included in regressing but someone can age play without regressing even if they are pretending to be a younger age. Okay about submission, so for me I am a little and a submissive, however some littles are dominant and some will be switches all of which are valid. Lots of littles even those who aren't completely submissive or are only submissive in little space want rules and consequences even if they aren't submissive. Though for me it links in to being a sub and I know this because I like rules and consequences outside of little space and don't want to top on any level. Now there are also babygirls/ boys who will want a CG or to be looked after in that caring way without regressing or playing a younger age at all. Being little and what that means I truthfully think is very personal and something only you can discover on your own. However, for me it means safety, and love, and acceptance, and reduced pressure and stress. Being little for me is my safe space, and it's the one time I truly feel I'm allowed to just be me. learning is scary, asking questions is scary, but you're doing that and it's incredibly brave and powerful. I'm here if you want advice or if you want to ask anymore questions, I'll always help as much as I can. And I'm proud of you, for asking and learning.

Here's my entry for this month!

My first coloring picture done! Soooo thankful the magical Amazon Fairy sends paper for my printer every month!

Hallo Meine Freuende (Hello my Friends), I've seen some posts recently about the following: Feeling ashamed about being a little. Being afraid to open up to a partner about being a little. Being afraid of judgement from others. Negative self-talk about being a little. I would like to plant a flag down and make one thing absolutely clear: no one will shame you here. You are safe, and you are perfect the way you are. And, as the wonderful @MissAnna is so fond of saying: you are loved and worthy of being loved. If you have nowhere else to go, this is a place you can go. If you have no one else to talk to, I am here to talk to you, and you may message me anytime. Being a little can be challenging. All our lives, we are told to grow up, to be independent. To be a little, we are going against that very strong, potent, omnipresent social current. (And my deepest empathy for little boys and mommies, who swim even further upstream against the masculinity and femininity expectations). Going on this journey takes strength, but if you are here, you are strong. You have already sought out community, advice, counsel, and safe-harbor. Some people go their whole lives wishing, but you are here-- you are acting upon what you know is right for you. And, if nobody else has commended you for that, I will. Good job. I came to these forums arguably at my lowest point in the last 60 months. I had to have the universe strip away most of my life as I knew it in order to come here. I have a whole post on my journey with shame, and I don't want to go into that here and detract from the point of the post-- I would just like you to know that you don't have to have your whole life stripped away to accept yourself. We will all accept you here. If you're reading this and you're unsure of your journey as a little, or you're afraid to open up to your partner, or you're ashamed of yourself-- acknowledging that and processing that is the first step. That can start here. You don't have to hide anymore. Hiding who you are can create pain. It can repress parts of yourself, or create barriers between yourself and a partner. It can create mistrust, jealousy, resentment, sadness, and numbness. If you have shame, fear, or uncertainty, we are all here for you. And if nobody has extended you an invitation to talk, have a friend, or have an ear: I am. Mit Liebe und Umarmungen (With Love and Hugs), Joey

@SweetLittleDreamer entry she was unable to post it from her devices

here's my entry

I am going to start with the thought that rings in my mind the most when reading your post : Do the labels of what you’re wishing to build (relationship or dynamic) really matter if one party is being left feeling the way you currently feel ? Not being valued , not feeling worthy , as though you’re a convenience rather than a partner. In my humble opinion before I even get into anything - it doesn’t matter. Neither of these labels matter if you feel the way you do and it will cause you damage in the long run and is not worth the blips of happiness you might catch in your net in between feeling unvalued and unworthy. No label matters if both parties aren’t putting equal energy into each other to begin with. I think you should sit with that a little bit - are you grasping at labels to try and create something to grab onto instead of letting it fade ? Even the most shallow interactions between people have equal rewards (to the parties involved - outsiders may disagree) such as sugar babies and sugar daddies , as the simplest example. Do you think a sugar daddy would continue to provide his sugar if he’s not getting any sugar in return ? Maybe if the guy is massively desperate for emotional or physical intimacy … but eventually that will dwindle as well. Along with the funds. I also consider if this was flipped. What if you were a female and a little that was making a post like this - being vulnerable and opening up about how you feel so unappreciated. Everyone would be up in arms and I’m sure much more people would reply how the Caregiver is an asshole and you should move on. Guess what I’m gunna say ? This chick is an asshole - and you should move on and invest time into yourself , whatever that looks like. Just from this post alone , I have no doubts that you have expressed your wants and desires - as well as possible outcomes for whatever ends up being your label. And I’m gunna be an asshole and say - does this chick even know the true definitions ? I’ll lay out Websters - my all time favorite book besides the one that shall not be named. Understandably , dynamic is going to be interpreted differently even though there is a literal definition. In my world - a dynamic is an exchange between two people. An equal exchange of forces and power where both sides benefit. A dynamic happens WITHIN a relationship. The two are intertwined in my world but I understand that there are people that separate them - but as @shadowrider stated … that only lasts so long before the dynamic shifts - one person demands more and it either fizzles out - blows up - or turns into a relationship. One cannot survive long without the other - they’re symbiotic labels in the end and one will shrivel up and die if the other is not treated with care. There is a reason people will call relations between two people “one sided” at times. One person is in it for the dynamics (exchanges between two people) and the other is in it for the possible relationship. My question is - do you put up with the behavior from this person that leads you feeling unworthy and undervalued so you have a person , a “friend” or the idea that you might be able to obtain a relationship ? If that is the case - this person is not a friend and not someone I would suggest you keep entertaining. From an outsider looking in - especially you being so obviously heartfelt and loving … this person isn’t a friend. If you’ve discussed how you felt with them and their answer was cold and “we have a dynamic not a relationship” … run for the hills. This is the type of person that will bang your door down when they need something but when YOU are bleeding out - they’ll shrug , say you’re not their problem and walk away. If you’re not in a “relationship” then why would they care to be there anyways ? Having this type of mindset in the DDLG world , to ME specifically is a huge red flag. I am probably the biggest and loudest advocate for men that the site has - and this type of shit makes me angry. Genuine men who want to care for someone being treated like this can break them down and destroy their hope of finding a little - or turn them into straight up monsters. Of course I only have the context that you provided … but to me it sounds like you’re being played like a fiddle. If someone ever said this to me when I'm pouring myself into building something , regardless of the label … please let the door hit your ass when I walk you out of my space and heart. No amount of “dynamic” activities (Ddlg activities that partners share) would ever fix the unworthy feeling it would create. In fact , it would make me feel more used to continue those activities KNOWING the other person has no interest in anything other than emotionless activities. I will be back later with more thoughts - but I’m literally shoving the last of my lunch in my face and now my phone is covered in honey mustard 😅 Those are my short lunchtime thoughts for now.

Alright guys here is where we will post quotes we like from the book!!! We are going to follow a specific format so no one sees any spoilers they dont want to. Posts will have page number first, then you will use the spoiler button (I am attaching a screenshot to show that) and insert the quote and your thoughts inside. Example: Yearning for Her chapter 5 page 72

Hiii guyssss😁😁 Ok so i was thinking the other day... if i had a backpack just for my little self, it would be STUFFED with fun stuff hehe like my stuffie, some well not some.. many chocolates and if i could ice creams😭😭, paints, brushes and sketch book...soooo I wanna know... What’s in YOUR little backpacks?? Pretend you're packing it for a magical playdate or a sleepover! tell me everythigggg hehe bonus points if you describe the backpack too (mine would be cute pink hello kitty one) can't wait to see what everyone brings! 🤗

Hey guys Pigtail again! Here is where we do our general chat on the group or the book Yearning For Her! New assignments come out Wednesday each week. So please make sure to keep thoughts and posts on the chapters already assigned. That way no one accidentally sees something 14 chapters ahead (thus the reason no reading ahead lol). We still need to spoiler things (see the Quotes post or ask me if you need help spoiling) puting the page the spoiler is from before the hidden spoiler. You are also welcome to just chat with eachother here in general, we have alot of new folks and a big group so get to know one another. Other than that just be kind and have fun!

One cannot claim dom/daddy status. One has to earn dom/daddy status. Clearly you were talking to a beta manchild. It's best to block him, count your blessings that you didn't get involved further or irl, and move on. It's not always easy, but don't allow others to gaslight you into nothingness. And maybe let @shadowrider be made aware of the situation. Keep in mind that this isn't a dating site. It's a kink forum that allows irl hookups. But unfortunately, there are a large portion of people who use our personal ads forum that have no intention or interest in forming any real connections. Use with caution.

This is where I will post all the questions and important announcements! Only I will post here to keep everything cohesive and easy to find.

Once again we had a good turn out for the contest and some really good submissions. We hope you all enjoyed yourselves. Our winner for July was..... Congratulations ! This month's contest will end on August 27th I will be starting a poll on or around the 28th and letting y'all pick the winner. * You can also look in my gallery at my coloring pages album where you will find all the coloring pages I've posted for contests. https://www.ddlgforum.com/gallery/album/5986-coloring-pages/ If you do not see anything you want to color feel free to find your own pic elsewhere and color it. Or draw and color your own. Guidelines 1. Must be your own handiwork. *You can add designs to blank sections and spruce it up if you feel inspired to 2. Must be submitted by the deadline. 3. Only 1 entry per member. You may color and upload all the pictures but let us know which is your entry. 4. Post your art on this thread or if you have trouble with that message a member of staff and we will be happy to assist you. Save the image(s) below. You can print it out to color it or use an app. Using a layer capable program/app Import (paste) the coloring page image. Set it as the top layer. Add a few layers under it. Set top layer (coloring page) to "Multiply" You should be able to color/erase easier, without affecting the lines. Free Apps: Sketches, Prismajoy and Sketchbook. Another app recommended by a member is ibis Paint X. PC: Gimp (that’s basically all I’ve used), MS Paint, Photoshop etc. Krita has also been recommended by a member. Recolor is an app suggested by one of our members who was kind enough to supply this link. https://www.recolor.com/ If you have suggestions for apps to use please comment them and I will try to remember to add them to the list. Good luck and happy coloring.

Alright, here is! I humbly sumbit my entry for the month. Anubis! (Fun fact, Anubis has long been a love of mine, so I was excited to do this one!)

Everyones is so cute.

I agree with setting things to private. You can meet people, though in all the time I was on there I only met one I cared to talk to for more than a hot minute. You can search by location to find people and meetups near you which is helpful. I'm not a big meetup and hangout with strangers kinda guy so the local munches aren't my thing. Plus I'd rather not run into anyone I might know. Seems like most of the profiles I found near me had been abandoned or were just wanting to sell pics and videos, again, not my thing. I left a while back because honestly if I wanted to see nothing but penises I'd go on omegle. I wish you all the luck though. Maybe check out their group/club sections to see what interests you.

If you still want to use it, I recommend setting your profile up so that only friends you accept can message you. Otherwise you may get a ton and a half of unwanted messages. If you choose to post pics, set them to friends only. There is a large ddlg community on Fetlife. But remember, it is still the internet. Just like any other site, you have to be prepared for disappointment and do your best not to take it too seriously. I have had some success there. But you have to be patient and be willing to weed out what you don't want. I hope that helps. It is just my perspective. I'm sure other people will share theirs.

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as someone that does digital art, coloring digitally is just as valid as pen and paper methods. all art done by ones own hand takes time and effort, no matter the medium. so don't downplay yourself just because you used and app! the turtle looks nice btw! so colorful! 😁 i like that there's a bit of texture in some parts~

Hope it’s not too late! Here’s my entry

I'm not a CG, but I wanted to throw this out here-- us littles really do appreciate all that you do for us! You are kind, generous, open-hearted. You allow us to relax and be ourselves. You allow us spaces to laugh, cry, hug, and play. You carry the weight of the world on your shoulders so that we don't have to bear it alone. I know I speak for all littles when I say: we love you daddy/mommy! And we're here to take care of you, too. We will bring you laughter, joy, love, silliness, and childlike wisdom. We will give back to you! Thanks for giving so much to us!

I feel like I've been on this forum long enough that I can say age really is just a number. It has nothing to do with maturity or embodiment of the dynamic. If course, we all have preferences, but honestly those really are just preferences that don't have much to do with anything. It's really just about who click with. Conversation, laughter, care...none of that has anything to do with age.

That's a really good question, and honestly I believe the age gap would be based on what the person's preference is. There are a lot of doms that prefer littles younger than them, there are some that don't mind the age differences. There are some littles who want a Dom around their age or maybe older. It just depends on what makes you happy and what you are comfortable with. Me personally I'm happy with my partners age, but yes I've had littles who were a lot younger than me. Its all about balance and honestly it's all about what you again are comfortable with. Remember you can be happy with someone who is the same age as you, older than you or younger than you are. So many Dom's and Littles get caught up on ages that they miss out on meeting some wonderful people.

I will always stand up for men - and I will also always be the devils advocate. As angry or mean as I might sound or seem to some - I am very anti “stand up for all littles.” I’ve seen first hand , too many men , in your exact position and littles are made out to be saints. Yes , some littles are coerced and taken advantage of. But the amount of the ~actual~ number of this happening is much lower than people realize. When littles cry wolf they’re almost always trusted to be honest and transparent. Men / caregivers are made out to be monsters and a small minority are deemed “good” … until another little cries wolf. I could go on about that topic for a very extended amount of time - but it leads me back to yourself. Just because other men have been bad , just because some littles have been treated badly - does that mean you have to have the same story for yourself ? I don’t think so. I believe with your behavior on the forum , especially your heartfelt posts on this situation - you’ve got a really good chance at finding someone who wants the exact same thing as you and will not make you feel undervalued. This can be genderless but for the sake of this situation I’ll be blunt and precise : Don't dwindle yourself , your wants , your happiness or your desires for any woman. Friendship is a ploy , one of my favorite sayings about women and monkeys fo hand in hand … “Women are like monkeys.. they won’t let go of the first branch until they know the second branch can hold their weight.” Have you ever consider you might be the second branch in this situation ? Don’t let yourself be a branch - be the whole tree my friend. 🫶🏼

I won't say a lot since others have laid a good foundation and I know DM will be back to frame it all out. I will say this is why I refuse to do platonic or babysitting. Feelings always get involved because we are humans and thats what we do. And to try and give someone the care they deserve in a relationship/dynamic without feelings is impossible and unrealistic. Why would I ask if you slept ok or if you remembered to eat if I didn't care ? I wouldn't. Why would I spend my time chatting with someone and learning about them if I didn't care on some level ? I wouldn't. Sounds like they want a (and I hate this term) situationship. Be here when I want you and for what I want and thats it. But even then, why would I want someone checking on me and doing things for me if I knew they didn't care one way or the other about me ? That to me is ridiculous. Sometimes you have to put yourself first and do what is right for you.

For my Daddy and I the relationship comes first and foremost with the DDlg dynamic inside that bigger bubble. There may be times of stress or crisis that necessitate we set the DDlg dynamic to one side temporarily but neither of us can foresee something that would lead us to set our relationship aside. For instance, when my Daddy had surgery He needed additional physical care and support so that's what I provided to Him. It doesn't mean a gentle Daddy cuddle was off the table but it did mean He needed a supportive adult partner which is what He had because of the relationship. Honestly if He told me, "we don't have a relationship. We have a dynamic.", I'd be out. Without that emotional connection I personally don't understand or see the point.

Heavy metal has been my life ever since I was a young teenager and the news of Ozzy passing has broke me this evening. I've had dark periods in my life that I got through thanks to musicians like Ozzy providing that escapism through music, and metal encapsulates that darkness more perfectly than any other genre. I can't comprehend a world where music does not exist; it's been the only anti-depressant that has worked for me, that has given me the comfort and resilience to keep going. Ozzy and Black Sabbath's influence on my life trajectory and on culture as a whole cannot be overstated, and what a life he led - 76 years old is genuinely a feat of accomplishment considering the life he led. An absolute legend in every sense of the word.

@Daddy Bear 77 @Solitarily_Me thank chu both! I will definitely look into chatGPT, I feel like the only one that hasn't jumped on the AI train hehe I really love that quote a lot, I've definitely been working a lot on knowing my limits and not being harsh on myself for them! I am now one week off the meds and things are looking up ^.^ my energy levels are back and I'm getting back to my bubbly self and it feels great!