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Good evening, good morning—wherever you are in this wild, aching, beautiful world. How are you, really? Not the smile you wear for others—but the quiet truth under your skin. Have you been breathing okay? Sleeping? Eating enough to feel like you're still here? I’m writing this with a full heart and a trembling one. Because being someone with BPD and an INFJ mind is like walking through fire barefoot, while holding a candle for others. You feel everything—too much, too fast, too deeply—and then blame yourself for bleeding. I grew up in a house where love was conditional, if it existed at all. I was the wrong shape, the wrong gender, the wrong weight, the wrong kind of sensitive. I learned to shrink before I learned to speak. I learned to perform before I learned to rest. And when the world mirrored that pain back at me, I believed it. I let it define me. But here's what I'm slowly unlearning: I am not the words that broke me. I am not the silence that followed. I am not unworthy just because someone else couldn’t love me well. If you're like me—wired for empathy, haunted by abandonment, walking around with scars nobody sees—I want you to know this: You’re not too much. You’re not a burden. You’re not broken beyond repair. Sometimes the most tender souls were never taught how to hold themselves. But we can learn. We are learning. It’s okay to start over. It’s okay to take a break. It’s okay to say “This hurts” and not have a solution. You deserve soft love. You deserve safe love. You deserve to be chosen without needing to prove your worth first. And even when you can’t believe any of that, I’ll believe it for you. To anyone who needs to hear this today: You are not alone in the storm. You are not the chaos inside your chest. You are more than survival. You are art. You are wildflowers breaking through concrete. You are the story still being written. My inbox is always open if you need a friend or a reminder that you matter. Because you do. So much more than you know. With love, Someone still learning how to love herself too 🌿🖤

@shadowrider Yayyy! I finally found time to finish a coloring for Daddy this month so here is my entry. 😁

Good morning all you amazing wonderful beautiful people on here! How have you all been? Has anyone had any new adventures lately? I wanted to come on here and make a topic about reaching out for help. So many times in our lives we have came to a place where we wish we could really say what was on our mind, but instead we just agree with the other person to pacify them. Yes there are times where we have not so nice thoughts about a person and it's a good thing we keep those comments to ourselves (well sometimes). But when someone is belittling you, calling you names, pulling you down, making you feel bad then those are the times where it's okay to say please stop. It's okay to say you're being hurtful, that hurts my feelings, please don't talk to me that way. All of these sayings are still kind and respectful without having to be hateful (like I am to people who call others names). You don't have to take their cruelty, you don't have to take their bitterness, you don't have to take their hatred towards you. You are allowed to stand up for yourself, yes I do realize this takes time to do, and sometimes they can make us feel so small where we feel powerless. It's only an act remember that, it's all an act to keep you in that mind frame, because you have so much power within yourself. They know this, they see this and they fear this. Because you can say no, you can tell them enough is enough. So please if feel trapped or someone is hurting you please reach out to someone. Remember it's okay to reach for help and have someone help you. And please if you are being hurt physically please reach out to someone. I promise there are so many people all around you who are willing to help you. If you are on this forum and someone is hurting you in anyway, report them to @shadowrider or @PigtailPrincess both of these people are phenomenal and will listen to you. You are all so wonderful and I'm so extremely proud of you all Until we meet again remember you matter, you are loved and you are worthy of being loved ❤️

Here is mine drawing for this month

A belated congratulations to the winners! I wish everyone the best of luck, keeping my fingers crossed for you! And here is my entry 💗

Here's another picture! I needed to color... it's been a long week...

Hello! Hi! Friendly Neighbourhood Soul here! I want to take a moment to talk about something that’s been bothering me, and I think it’s something we all need to hear—whether you’re a Daddy, a Mommy, a Little, or somewhere in between. This is DDLG. This is not FinDom. Over the past little while, I’ve heard of people requesting money just for attention or time in a dynamic. Let me be blunt: That’s not okay. DDLG is about trust, emotional connection, and mutual care. It’s a space where hearts matter more than wallets. When someone starts asking for $10 or $15 just to interact, that’s not a dynamic—that’s a transaction. And it’s a shady one at that. Now don’t get me wrong—there is a place for FinDom. It has its own rules, expectations, and community. But DDLG? That’s not where we mix love and manipulation. In this space, your feelings are valuable, not your finances. Your self-worth is not tied to how much you can give someone. It’s tied to how you treat others, how you grow in your role, how you show up with authenticity, and how much trust and love you’re willing to build. That’s the currency we trade in here. If someone’s putting a price on their affection, attention, or submission/dominance—walk away. You deserve real connection, not conditional companionship. Let’s keep our community safe, sincere, and strong. Stay safe. Stay kind. Stay respectful. And know your worth. -Soul-

This one took awhile!

@shadowrider am i allowed to enter with this? :3

I decided I'd take a swig at this coloring contest.

A creepy cutie in a swimming pool 🥰

My June submission.

My entry for May! My cat kept biting the ends of the paper and pencils while I was drawing 😑 lol but we got it done together, and just in time! This was really fun, I hope everyone else had a good time too!

I loved the elephant, but she needed some butterfly friends! She's floating on the heart shaped clouds with her butterfly friends! 🥰

When you can't sleep....color Winnie the Pooh Beear

A Happy Flower!!

First I would like to say thank you to everyone that participated and took the time to vote. We had a record turnout last month and it was great to see so many people joining the contest. I hope you will all join us again this month. All of you did a great job and we hope you enjoyed yourselves. I would like to say a big congratulations to This month's contest will end on June 27th I will be starting a poll on or around the 28th and letting y'all pick the winner. * This month the only theme we have is summer fun. You can also look in my gallery at my coloring pages album where you will find all the coloring pages I've posted for contests. https://www.ddlgforum.com/gallery/album/5986-coloring-pages/ If you do not see anything you want to color feel free to find your own pic elsewhere and color it. Or draw and color your own. Guidelines 1. Must be your own handiwork. *You can add designs to blank sections and spruce it up if you feel inspired to 2. Must be submitted by the deadline. 3. Only 1 entry per member. You may color and upload all the pictures but let us know which is your entry. 4. Post your art on this thread or if you have trouble with that message a member of staff and we will be happy to assist you. Save the image(s) below. You can print it out to color it or use an app. Using a layer capable program/app Import (paste) the coloring page image. Set it as the top layer. Add a few layers under it. Set top layer (coloring page) to "Multiply" You should be able to color/erase easier, without affecting the lines. Free Apps: Sketches, Prismajoy and Sketchbook. PC: Gimp (that’s basically all I’ve used), MS Paint, Photoshop etc. Recolor is an app suggested by one of our members who was kind enough to supply this link. https://www.recolor.com/ If you have suggestions for apps to use please comment them and I will try to remember to add them to the list. Good luck and happy coloring.

Hi hi 👋 I feel like there's misconceptions floating around Littlespace and wanted to bring awareness to some things. Now obviously, I'm just sharing my pov here, but the great thing to remember about cgl/bdsm is how customizable it is. So, if somebody is trying to gatekeep your Littlespace preferences, here's a friendly reminder for you. Feel free to discuss these or add other things you think are common misconceptions! Misconceptions: Rules/rewards/punishments are required. You can't be a Little past a certain age. You can't be single. Can't be independent once in a relationship. You need to know your littleage. Do what caregiver says without hesitation. Have to look the part with accessories. Only for small body types. It's just kink. Can't have kids. Only girls can be Littles. Can't be disabled. Have to have childhood trauma. Reality: Nope, not mandatory. Littlespace is a safespace for adults. *eyeroll* Only if your caregiver's ego is small. *eyeroll* *waves red flag* 🚩 *eyeroll* *eyeroll* For some of us, it's a d/s lifestyle. Yes you can. *eyeroll* *eyeroll* Lot of Littles do, but it's not mandatory.

Hello all you wonderful amazing people on here! So as you have known I have gotten some life-changing news recently. They found a mass in my brain and thought it was cancer. My world had been turned upside down and within a matter of seconds I went from having a normal life to having a life that might be over within months. I had to go in for more test and I spoke to a neurologist specialist who deals with what I'm going through. It is a benign tumor, guys I'm not terminal. I'm going to be okay, the weight has been lifted off my shoulders. I sat there and I cried like a baby for what seemed like forever. So thank you all for worrying about me and for checking in on me. I can't tell you how relieved I am to know that I'm going to be okay. She told me that when they looked at it, the physician at that time thought it was a cancerous mass. She said from my blood work, my MRI and from recent spinal tabs it is not cancer. I can't tell you how relieved I feel, how amazing that feels. Yes I still have MS, yes I'm still going to have hard days ahead of me. But I'm going to be okay, they're going to start me on some new treatments to help stop the spread of the MS in my brain. And I'm going to be okay, so to anyone that is going through any kind of health scare I promise it gets better. It takes time but we will overcome all of our battles. Thank you all so much for all that you've done for me. I can't thank you all enough for loving me and for being my friends. I'm just so happy that I'm going to be okay. Thank you guys for everything! Until we meet again remember you matter, you are loved and you are worthy of being loved 💗

Good luck everyone!! >w< ❤️ so motivating when so many joined in!!

I’m at work so I can’t type as much as I want to - and I plan on writing much more when I have time outside of work. A point I wanted to make was the opposite side of this - people *offering* you money to give them your time. People come across hard times and might be enticed when someone lures them in with cash and money. Stay away from people with dollar bills attached to a lure. I will also shamelessly tag my post about money here :

Hi! I am newly joined here and am so pleased to find this thread. I am 45, and only recently begun to express my middle (14-16). It sort of started a while back when I was discussing with my partner about how a lot of people still feel in their mid-late 20s in their heads, and he said "Well, yes, but you are mid-teens when you need to turn off" I sat with that for a bit and then told him "You know what, you are right"...so now he encourages me to embrace it when I need to turn off and let off steam, I have several full outfits now that just put me in the headspace for being the rebellious, extroverted, slightly intimidating teen (I even got some Dr Martens Bratz boots to go with them!), and he encourages me to play cute games on my console that I would never have played before, and we watch all my favourite 90s movies while I eat M&Ms and ice cream and stay up way too late. I have worried about it and asked him "Is this a mid-life crisis" and he said "I have known you for nearly a couple of decades, you have been like this the whole time, you just did not feel comfortable expressing it before, embrace it, have fun with it" so I am, and you know what? It is great and I don't care what people think!

Its from my new coloring book creepy cuties

I was reflect yesterday on my relationship with my Daddy/Boyfriend and how Cgl is part of not just our relationship but also our lives in general. It made me reflect further on how difficult it can be for Caregivers in this space. Caregivers face challenges from often trying to deal with trauma their littles may have been through. Providing reassurance when their little feels they are too demanding or too broken to be loved. Facing misperceptions and accusations when so often all a good Caregiver wants is to love their little. Dealing with being used or ghosted. Often not getting the same support that every human being needs. A lot of Caregivers face stresses that don't get talked about or littles assume Caregivers are or must always be strong. So to all you Caregivers out there let me share with you what I see as so wonderful in all of you, yes my Daddy especially, that either take on thst role or are naturally Care givers at heart. You are a light in the darkness. You are a rock in a sea of emotional turmoil and a safety bar on a rollercoaster of confusion. You provide a safe haven for littles to rest if even only for fleeting moments. You provide assurances that letting go is safe. You provide a mental meadow where carefree happiness and giddiness aren't just ok but are celebrated. You are a gift that your little celebrates even if at times we don't know how to express it. You are strong by showing honesty and vulnerability is not wrong. You guide, you protect and you love deeply and without judgment. You are treasured. You are loved. You are a Caregiver. To littles with Caregivers, remember that when we offer vulnerability our Caregivers accept that gift like a fragile bubble and they guard it fiercely and with joy. To the Caregivers, if you have a little hold them close tonight in a hug that feels like it should never end. If you don't have a little they are out there looking for you. Not everyone is a Caregiver and should be one. To those who are know how much you are treasured not just as a Caregiver but also as a person. To all, never settle. Find the Caregiver or little who deserves your heart who will protect yours as fiercely as you will protect theirs.

The short answer ; be up front when getting to know a potential little for dating. Just flat out say , “Having a sexual relationship is a non negotiable for me , I don’t want to get your hopes up in the chance we do get along and click. If this is something that won’t work for you , it’s best to nip any feelings in the bud so neither of us get hurt.” My monkey brain answer : I hate that wanting a sexual relationship is seen as being a creep. Guess I’m a creep then too 🤷🏻‍♀️ I think it’s more the way someone goes about it that makes them a creep or not - rather than the actual desire to have a sexual relationship. As well as how quickly you’re expecting that relationship to happen after starting to get to know someone. Wanting sex after a week and only talking about sex ? Yeah , kinda creepy. Mentioning that you do want a sexual relationship within the DDLG dynamic as casual topic conversation , discussing future possibilities , not so creepy. I am not a fan of the whole idea that wanting sex in this lifestyle makes you a creep - whatever your role or gender is. I dunno… it’s always the actions that prove that in my opinion.

Here's a few I did this week.. the treehouse is my entry for this month.

Hi all, I’m 34 years old and since meeting my husband I’ve always felt safe and naturally acted “little”. Before him I was a single mom of 3 boys and worked 2-3 jobs at a time, so very independent and stubborn. It’s been a huge change in a good way and it just naturally happened. Fairly new though to calling him daddy or dada and wearing cute little onesies and using a bottle, I love it! But it’s getting over the insecurity of having a mom body but a little girl mind and heart 😝 and coming up with ideas for rewards and stuff has also been challenging. So any ideas would greatly be appreciated

Its that time again. I need y'all to pick a winner of this month's contest. So give them all a good look and cast your vote. Good luck to everyone. Aikko kuuchan LeftyGuitar lillizzie24 lily0610 Little Nyx Little Skittles littlegala MissAnna Pokechu Valentina littlelivvie BabyPoppy

Yayyyy! So many participants this month. Good luck everyone, they’re all absolutely adorable! 😻

So many participants this month ❤️ And they're all great, hard to pick one!

I wanted to personally thank each and everyone of you all for for joining The Light House Club. You are all so amazing and I love reading your post. I know there are so many on here that are facing obstacles and advertises, remember do not ever give up. Life can be so hard at times, and sometimes life gives us a very harsh hand. But during these times that we are going through hardships that's when we need to reach out and lean on one another. Remember we are here for you, this is a safe space. You will not be judged here nor will anyone look down upon you or criticize you. It is our job to uplift you and show you how amazing you truly are. You are never a bother, you are not wasting our time, you do matter, you are seen and you are perfect just the Way You Are. So don't ever hesitate just to vent or speak your mind on here. And thank you for joining this beautiful club 💕 Until we meet again remember you matter, you are loved and you are worthy of being loved 💓

Soooo this hippo is super cute!

Good luck everyone ☺️ here’s my entry for this month. pencil colouring . 😻😸🐚🌞

It's certainly something that is out there but probably on the rarer side to be honest. Most people want to find a partner that will help contribute to the relationship and/or household so finding a partner who wants someone who makes zero decisions is likely to be a challenge. My own two cents, what you're describing is a risky dynamic. What happens if your partner becomes ill, has to go away for work for an extended period of time or passes away unexpectedly. How do you care for yourself if you havent had to make any decisions? The unexpected can happen sadly and at tye end of the day we are all adults, or we wouldn't be here, so making sure you still have the life skills you need an ability to care for yourself is also a very important consideration.

yay! ^w^ congrats to @Little Nyx also!! 👏❤️ Definitely will participate again this month! And i hope others will too ! 😊🌻

@Ariguin Thank you so much for finding the courage to share something so deeply painful. I’m truly sorry that someone you trusted so much hurt you in such a traumatic way. What happened to you was not your fault — you didn’t deserve any of it, and I hope you know that your feelings are completely valid. It’s heartbreaking to hear what you’ve gone through, especially feeling so alone with the weight of it all for so long. You are incredibly strong, even if it doesn’t feel like it right now. Surviving that kind of betrayal and still pushing forward — even when things feel like they’re falling apart — shows just how resilient you are. Please don’t carry this pain on your own. You deserve support, safety, and healing. If you can, I really encourage you to speak to someone you trust — a therapist, a support line, or one of your parents or even just a friend. You don’t have to go through this in silence. There are people out there who care and want to help you feel safe again. You’re not alone, even though it might feel like it. There is hope, even in the darkest moments — and healing is absolutely possible. Sending you so much love, strength, and comfort. You matter. 💛

My Daddy just gave me this blanket as a belated birthday gift. As a babyfur with a fox fursona this touches my heart so so deeply. It's so big and soft 💖💖💖

I love all the pretty pictures! So excited to see them posted!

They are all wonderful

Oh my goodness they are all so freaking cute 🥰

Can you vote for yourself?

I have a weekly EMDR/trauma therapy session and since last weeks was pushed off until Friday I had another one today just a few days later that I did NOT want to attend. But I did and we did some good work and I am much proud!!!

Good morning all you brave amazing people on here! How are you all doing? Any new adventures coming your way? I love reading about your adventures! I wanted to come on here to talk about loving yourself. I think out of all the things we say about ourselves, loving ourselves is one of the hardest things to do. It's so easy for us to criticize ourselves, put ourselves down, say mean or bad things about ourselves. After all this is mostly what we've heard all our lives, so it has to be true correct? What if it's not true, what if everything you've ever been told about how bad you were, how you're not good enough, how you'll never be loved. What if all those things were nothing but a lie. And that's what they were they were lies, from people who we trusted, who were meant to take care of us, who were meant to love us, yet instead they broke us. So we began believing the lie, telling ourselves that everything they said was true. Then we start talking negatively about ourselves, because it's all we've ever known. And now we don't know how to take a compliment. Some people view us as being rude, stuck up, but in reality we're just hurt. So I want to let you all know that all those bad things you've ever been told are nothing but a lie. You are beautiful, you are amazing, you are intelligent, you are brave, you have the perfect weight or height and you're not bad. You're none of those bad horrible things you were told growing up or even now. Those words should have never been said to you, I'm so sorry that you had to bare all those burdens for so long alone. It's takes time to see those lies, but one day you will. And one day you're going to look in the mirror and you're going to love yourself because you're going to see what I've always seen. A Beautiful, funny, courageous, absolutely amazing phenomenal person. Because you are, you are worthy of being loved. You're worth the fight, you're worth the leap of faith, you are worth being wanted and you are worth getting to know. So remember that, it's okay to start loving yourself, it's okay to be kinder to yourself, it's okay to just say one nice thing about yourself. You are allowed to be kind to yourself, and you are allowed to tell people to be kinder to you. I'm so proud of all of you, your stories are amazing, your adventures are beautiful, and I absolutely love when you find someone that you can connect with. I wish you all happiness in love 💞 My door is always open to those who need me Until next time remember you matter, you are loved and you worthy of being loved ❤️

So I've been around here awhile, but haven't checked in lately... I'm Baby Poppy... my little age is 3 and younger... down to baby...🥰 my big age is 4 and 5 hehe... someone told me I could use that to feel better about my big age! Like many of you, my body tells me all the time that I'm growing up... arthritis in my hands, wrists, elbows, hips, knees, feet... asthma/allergies/food issues... tummy troubles... no more girl parts inside and hormone stuff... bladder problems (makes ABDL more fun when it's a need and a want!😆)... and some other stuff.... I choose to be happy about most of it and cry when I need to.... Also, like many if you I'm kinda new to this... I have really found my place yet or worked out who I am as a little... but I don't think I ever will coz as my body changes, my needs change and I need to adapt to my level of comfort in allowing someone to care for me. Hiding from the rest of the world is painful for our hearts... so I made it a game of pretend... my little side loves make believe! (Thanks Mr. Roger's Neighborhood!) I know my little self is my true self... when I need to do something big I think like a big... so I know the expectations of what needs to be done at work and while im there i do that... while wear a onesie under my clothes or cute hair or drinking from a fun water bottle... whatever is appropriate... but at home in my private space I can be me! Look around! There are more older littles and middles than you realize... many of us tend to hang back a little longer before talking to people... we have a lot to juggle in life and me personally sometimes life gets busy and I step back... then it's not so busy so I pop back in to say hi... it's ok... this is family... you are accepted here.

my entry for the coloring contest

I got new crayons and had yo try them out... I'm not sure if I like them yet... I need to color more...

Hi, 😃 here’s my entry for this month, I used colouring pencils to try and create a fur texture. 😊 happy colouring everyone! 🥰