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This is simply a hangout for Littles and Bigs, a place to have fun, chat, and be yourselves. The only rule is this is a nonsexual hangout. No naughty business, or spankings will be delivered. Topics for Discussion: •Favorite Cartoons? •Do you have any pets? •What's a dream of yours?

so I've had this--I guess you can call it a topic since I'm writing it on this section of the forum...I've had this topic on my mind for a while. I've come to realize and quite recently as well, that ddlg and everything that it is really helped me a lot mentally, which of course prompted me to write about it and see who else out there can say the same~ for me, i struggle a lot with issues of control and ddlg allows me to have the best of both worlds. I get to be in control (a little/sub holds as much power as the dom) but on the other hand the full reign of control is given to my dom and that brings me so much peace and clarity. I get to exist in a space where that struggle is no more. I also struggle with trust and intimacy and I've found from the short (yet insightful) last ddlg relationship of mine, that I come to be more open and forthcoming when I am allowed to be a little as well as just me. I now find that trying to 'date' others outside the community is difficult and often leads to the triggering of these issues but when I'm with someone who understands my needs and in turn knows that they work well with theirs, trust and intimacy come easier to me (ofc such things still take time to be established, I'm simply saying it's easier when with a dom) Also from the same relationship, I've learned that my anxiety and panic attacks are easily soothed with proper aftercare and simple acts like telling my dom i wanna hear their voice at 4 am and have them call me (I used to text my last dom 'tell me not to cry' and he'd text back 'don't cry, babygirl, tell me what's wrong?') because simply my dom telling me not to do something, makes me immediately want to stop doing it (that may change in other contexts tho hehe~) I'd love to go on but I would also love to hear about what anyone else has to say about this (and maybe if you can relate to some of the things here~) Thank you for reading this far, lovelies, stay safe!

I feel many get into dynamics with toxic Dominants because they can't see the red flags from the go. People end up in emotionally abusive relationships, and mistake it as "tough love", when its nooot. So many of these "Red Flags" prey on those who seem vulnerable, and overly eager to find someone. I'm not sure if there has already been a post like this before, but it doesn't hurt to bring it back to light? So, what are some signs? Stories?

I cant stress how important happiness is. Everyone who knows me, knows i like to grump (a lot) but it doesn't mean i don't appreciate a happy moment when i get one. Ideally i would like to be happy all the time, but alas you have to be a big girl (or boy!) in this cruel world at least 5/7 days a week. I love being a little because it makes me the happiest i feel i will ever be. Its so rewarding feeling like you can just waste a day colouring, or cuddling or dressing up in your favourite outfits. I've read and heard a lot of negativity in my life, whether it be in person or behind a screen. I'm rather tired of it, I want to promote safety and happiness everywhere I go. Everyone is so black and white these days, but what about the grey? the amber, the reds, yellows, blues, pinks (Which is by far the best colour in the entire universe) 'Give up on your daddy' 'It will happen again, people are all the same' 'what you're doing is unhealthy' I appreciate the concerns, I really do. But I come to people and tell them the hiccups I have for advise and support. Anyone is welcome to their opinion but you should go about it kindly. So many people I know resort to anger and quicker than reflecting and thinking and it upsets me greatly. I personally cannot hold onto anger, it bubbles up until I become a fountain of tears but that's just me personally. Patience is a virtue. No one but me knows my Daddy, and no one but my Daddy knows me. People are forever evolving and learning from their mistakes and I believe in second chances. I am so proud of my Daddy and who he is and what hes becoming. Hes becoming a man I am so proud to be with despite our mistakes. We may fight, and cry and scream at one another but it ends in loving snuggles every time. I promote safety and happiness always. Listen to your heart AND your brain, what's best for you? forget about everyone else. People make bad mistakes, it doesn't mean they aren't good people. Everyone judges far too quickly, and yes I may have gotten hurt in the past for loving the wrong people. But I don't regret loving anyone, I learnt my lesson.s when needed and I gave out love because I enjoy loving and caring for people. ​JUST BE HAPPY AND SAFE. DONT HURT ANYONE INTENTIONALLY (Unless youre into that, then consent and safe words always). ​Little Hissy fit over c: ​~Minx out ~

Hi all, i am a 36 years old artist from Europe, I had recently broken up with my girl and i feel like i need more friends or people who talk with. I'm very tall with long arms and big hands and i tend always to use them to protect people around me, Im also willing to help but it sometimes gets me in trouble because i can get intoxicated with other people problems and forget about my owns. I use a lot imagination in my work but also in my daily life I hope you all forgive my english im still improving it See you soon