Posted 11 July 2018 - 04:08 PM
Lol Imma jus go ahead and try to help
And stop over thinking it.
~note: I wanna mention that I've experienced situation(s) similar to yours in the past and therefore understand almost exactly how you mean but not 'spot on'♡ So please keep dat in mind as I try to help ^m^
There should be nothing to be afraid of when it comes to Littlespacey wacey~° in my understanding it's all full of warmth, self-indulgence in happiness and innocence, cuddles, sweets, lazing infront of the Telly watching your favourite programme as you feel stressors from adulting fade away (cute slang word lol)
To me that sounds amaz-gumballz!
It sounds therapeutic and like a safety net as if you're a fishy jumping into a fishing net (minus the dying)
The fish is flying! You're flying!
.. wait .. where is dis going >.>
.. OH RIGHT! Lol
There are tons of beautiful factors that play into PKB's reasons why dis should be a good thing!.. and it can be if you let yourself switch your little amazing, pink-onesie-wearing mind over from headspace hurting you to headspace helping you! c:
I really think this will help you Lil'kitten.
I know it easier said then done, but keep in mind that I felt same way as you.
I didn't mention it, but now I am (lol)
°at a time in my life, due to other things that happened (including everything you said of your relationship is relatable)->
I was a mess.
I was a complete mess and crying every night and having my BFF have to send me funny gifs to make me happy nearly every 5 minuted.. but let's not get to the crummy details (my bff- who is vanilla lol I think it funny she was *snickers* I always teased her and she teased me lol)
My current S.O. was my guy BFF at the time and was there for everything. Every. Single. Thing.
And wanna know what my S.O. & current Daddy told me about feeling like Little space is harmful to me and I shouldn't even try to practice it and how much I felt like I didn't deserve to be in Little space bc i feel bad about doing like I'm doing something wrong and being to afraid from being in Little space since for me, I was hurt while in Little space and the fact I had failed at being perfect in Littlespace and caused this and that, and *a lot more belittling words and self-degrading Things due to being impossibly hurt* ?
EXACTLY what I tell you! Hehe (though I modified what he said so it's his and mine words)
But he told me that there shouldn't be any reason to. And if I deep down, waaaaaay past my hurt and past what ever happened, if I reaaaly truly was hurting due to not being in Little space as if Little me was huddled in a corner crying because Bigger Me don't let her come through and being so scared... and yet still wanting to come out and be little....
If I truly feel that way than there should be no one stopping me from letting my Littlespace come forward and allowing myself to regress because you wanna know something too?
You are Amazing. You are the most wonderful person and you make yourself this way. You deserve to be happy. And if being happy means Littlespace then so be it. If fear is stopping you from being happy- what is you fear at all when it's basically, if you were able to make it into, a person holding your shoulders saying you cannot pass them?
You can easily push the human down and be what you wanna be. Be happy!
Do things, if not bring and encourage Littlespace, that help you become happy and do things that you aren't afraid to do for any reason.
If you like colouring (Little space out of this equation) then colour.
Do things that will gradually help you focus on a specific task and distract you or take anything else in your mind awaybas you slowly relax and start feeling more comfortable in your skin. Things that bring creativity to the surface rather than unhappy thoughts.
☆write in a journal or anything that is paper
☆draw; paint; throw glitter around; make arts and crafts (cuz u don't need to be Little to enjoy those:3)
☆Find an extracurricular activity that grabs your interest and keeps you active and moving
☆Find extracurricular activities that are soothing and relaxing
~taking soothing baths
~going for a casual, relaxing stroll through your neighbourhood or park
~watch movies that make you laugh (my favourite)
~spend time with friends ♡
And much like Gandi_Bee said, surround yourself with positive people who love and support you.
I'm sorry if I seemed pushy or overbearing... especially about Little space.. but I just..
It something I had a horrribbleee time with and so I found a sort of passion for it ♡
I hope all is well and.. know that there are people there for you, if you ever need it ♡