confused newbie over here

[sentientsucculent]

i joined the forum literally a few minutes ago

i've only very very recently discovered the ddl community, let alone that i wanted to be part of it, and i'm really struggling w a few things

the biggest problem is that I'm a transgender ddlb and dysmorphia/dysphoria is really messing with my ability to reach little space because as much as i want to be treasured, i want to feel like the boy i am, which is really hard

has anyone got any tips?

and i'm also a bit lost on the entie community... there's so much info everywhere that i have no idea where to start

[CodeName: Trouble]

Hullo and welcome to the community! I have a few links for you that I think can help! This site is full of wonderful topics and information so I suggest reading as much as you can, but it can definetly be allot to take in. I think these could be a good place for you to start!

 

No True Way: https://www.ddlgforum.com/topic/16623-no-true-way/

An intro to the dynamic: https://www.ddlgforum.com/topic/34614-intro-to-the-dynamic-megathread-adapted/

Trans/genderqueer: https://www.ddlgforum.com/topic/7562-transgenderqueer/

Edited August 14, 2018 by CodeName: Trouble

[Guest DuckDaddy66]

Just asked my little what she needs to reach her little space, she needs her Daddy. So maybe find the right daddy or get a person to help you relax into that space.

[Guest Arc]

There's a number of transgender littles out there. I hope you can reach out for support and advice from them if you have not already. The community is very supportive and inclusive (minus a few mean people - but you get that anywhere) and you'll find all sorts around here. All littles are welcome and are valid. Just be yourself! 

 

Not all littles have a little space, so if you can't reach one don't worry. Just have fun and do whatever makes you happy. ^^

[Guest SheepishPrince]

I myself and a trans little (ftm) and i have extreme bouts of dysphoria. But being little actually helps me with that! i think of myself as a little boy, playing with dinos and toy cars, watching "boy" cartoons and movies, basically reliving my childhood that i spent confused and alone as the boy i am, fully realized and trying his best .u.

 

 

 

When i get bad dysphoria, i do find it hard to go into little space, since all i can think about is how "girly" most of the things are, but hen i remember that no matter what ill find the right daddy for me who loves me not as his "fem boy" but as his little boy... 

 

idk, but that's how i deal with it for myself. I honestly haven't been in the community that long either, and im still working on myself and what i want out of the lifestyle, but that's ok! everyone is changing and developing themselves!

 

 

 

i hope that helps even a lil bit.. <3

[Little Illy]

Sorry for the recycled response below, however I have heard at least some of these help. I would also recommend going into the search feature of the forum for Transgender and Dysmorphia/Dysphoria. This forum has a massive wealth of information and a lot of it contains comments with all sorts of different perspectives and tips.

 

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This also may seem pedantic, but I have written so many pieces on those just entering this community, a BDSM community and/or needing help with the fundamentals. I am just gonna link my pieces below:

 

https://www.ddlgforu...thread-adapted/ (SFW) - the absolute basics that you need to consider in regards to who you are and what you want/can handle.

 

https://www.ddlgforu...-gratification/ (SFW) - explains why, especially in this community, time is a necessity and you need to be sure you take consideration in who you partner up with.

 

https://www.ddlgforu...d-to-be-single/ (SFW) - jumping right into a relationship will not help you figure out who you are in this community or what you may like. It does increase the risk of being hurt or manipulated as you are new. 

 

https://www.ddlgforu...-end-of-things/ (SFW) - this piece kinda breaks up the dynamic in a more understandable way. Do you like this as a kink and only in the bedroom, or do you want to live this every day, day in and day out and never break from it? This piece helps clear that up a bit.

 

https://www.ddlgforu...mean-powerless/ (SFW) - this is something every CG and Little needs to remember. It doesn't matter if you are a little, a sub, a pet, a brat, a whatever, if you are in a relationship where your partner assumes some sort of authority over you (even if it is just enforcing bedtime), you will ALWAYS have the right to say NO whenever you need and WANT to.

 

https://www.ddlgforu...ation-is-vital/ (SFW) - this is my most important piece. It explains how communication is literally the foundation of this dynamic and any relationship.

 

https://www.ddlgforu...-needs-to-stop/ (SFW) - this is my second most important piece. It goes into detail explaining how the term 'fake' is a plague in our community, when in reality what you are seeing (and those expectations people have of you) are incompatibility. 

 

Those are a few from my collection, but I have been told they are a great help to those just starting out. I wish you the very best and myself and a lot of people are always around if you ever have questions. Good luck and welcome to the community!