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Hello, I’m a little who got ghosted recently and who is trying to heal :)) To avoid this happening to me again i have a two questions for the daddies/ caregivers here and thought i can ask them here : -What are some red flags i should be aware of in daddy doms? -How can i find an actual daddy dom outside of the internet ? Is there signs? ( I’m scared of liking someone new but them being disgusted when they find out about my little space, and i can’t be in a relationship where my little space is ignored) Thank you ☺️

Hello, I’m new here, it’s my first time using a forum, i hope i do it right:) Before starting this text, i wanna mention i have BPD and a lot of childhood trauma which will probably explain all the big feelings in this post ( also TW’s). I’ve pretty much always involuntary regressed but i only found out it’s an actual coping mechanism a few years ago. I only had two DDLG relationships experiences in my life, both online. The first one was extremely traumatic and was with a fake dom, i didn’t know anything about those relationships and fell into his trap, he ruined me and i refused to age regress or do anything related to DDLG for +1 year. Until i met a new dom, we have been talking for a few months and he’s been the absolute best, he’s been very kind and caring and we had the perfect relationship, I’m not gonna say a lot about him or I’ll just cry even more. We only had one problem, communication, we texted only when he wanted to, sometimes if he didn’t start the conversation i had no way of contacting him, i kindly asked him to have a conversation about that and it ended up with him refusing to resolve the problem and me having a panic attack. After that he completely ghosted me, and saying I’ve been fine would be a total lie. It’s been two weeks and I’m barely taking care of myself, I’m completely empty inside and started not going to work lately, i can’t sleep at night, i keep throwing up and crying and reading our old texts. During the day i take long naps to avoid having to live, i don’t even need them i just have no strength to live anymore. I told him everything about my mental illness and my trauma and he was so understanding and lovely, i never thought he could do something like this. I trust one person after years of not doing so and this is my reward, what always happened to me during my whole life. I feel completely broken inside and have no will to live anymore. I’ve hidden all my age regression related stuff and I’ve been rotting in my bed for i don’t know how long, i can’t even eat anymore and my whole body feels numb while my mind is screaming horrible horrible thoughts. I honestly don’t know why I’m writing this, i never did this before but if anyone knows how to help, what to do get better, please tell me cause i feel like my life is completely over right now. Everything is falling apart. Thank you for anyone who’ve read all this and I’m sorry for all the negativity in this post, i don’t know how to deal with this by myself anymore, I’m sorry.

Hi theeere! I noticed that there seems to be more Ddlg and Mdlb than Ddlbon this site, so this place is for us!! Everyone play nice! Lets start by seeing how many of us there are! I'm a trans little boy, how about youuuu?

What are some ideas of dates you can go on with your Caregiver? Not just romantic adult style ones (like dinner), but ideas for dates where you can be in your littlespace while they're in their Big space. I'll start; Sir and I went to the park, where he can push me on the swings and hold onto my hand while I try to balance and walk on walls. At the same time, he has to check I'm warm enough and not hungry etc.

Disclaimer: I'm really sorry if this is not the right place for this, I just don't know where to turn and this is the only place I felt safe to open up and ask for help. I really just would like encouragement and supportive advice and comfort right now. Last time I posted for advice on a forum everyone bashed him and said he didn't love me etc just cus I said we were thinking of playing with a third person. My daddy (38M) and I (28F) broke up yesterday. We both struggle with depression and mental health stuff, and for the last 4 days he has been hit with bad news again and again and again and finally broke down. He broke up with me in what I can only describe as a mental breakdown, and made a number of other drastic life decisions at the same time. I was devastated, cus I have really serious abandonment issues and it was so unexpected, we were so happy, and a chain of events just completely snowballed and it ended up with this explosion. I was quarantining with him, so I had to pack all my stuff and go home unexpectedly. He was not himself at all. He didn't tell me to leave but he told me he never wanted to speak to me again and he was done with me, it was completely out of the blue and it came along with a lot of other stuff he said about his life etc that I wont go into detail about. But then when I was packing he started to say I didn't have to leave right away, because he was leaving for a couple hours to go do his workout so I could take my time and leave while he was gone. I told him I didn't know what else to do besides pack...and I was just crying uncontrollably. He was helping me save my money so he asked if I would be there when he got back and I was confused cus there would be no way I would still be there unless I waited for him to come back....I could barely speak and tried to understand him and he was just like "ok fine, I'll drop your money tomorrow then if you're not here when I get back." Like totally heartless. But then when he got home he messaged me to ask if I was okay and apologize for how he said things without considering my feelings and said that he just cant deal right now. I told him how much I loved him and wanted him to get better and find happiness and peace and I would always support him etc. He thanked me and we said goodnight but then he messaged me later multiple times that night. Now all day today he has been intermittently messaging me. He asked why I didn't take any of the dessert we had got and when I said I was distracted by the fact that he broke up with me (duh!), he said he would bring some for me when he brings my money. And other treats too to make me feel better. Right before his meltdown I got a phone call that my surgery is scheduled for next week. He's been the one supporting me emotionally through my health issues and knew I was waiting to hear about surgery. When he was leaving yesterday I asked for a hug goodbye and he hugged me and said he'd see me around and I said I don't know if you will, I have surgery next week. He insisted he wants to know the time and come to the hospital. That's what he was originally gonna do anyway. He's been messaging me about eating healthy to prepare for surgery and keeping up with my exercise. He designed all my workouts and improved my health so much over the past year, and he was going to rehab me (he's a PT). We were supposed to start a new gym that day but now I guess I have to stay at our old gym, since he broke up with me and went to the new gym that afternoon without me. I cant bring myself to get out of bed, far less go to the gym where EVERYONE will ask me about him, as they always do when he misses a day. I'm all alone now. But then I'm not, cus even now he's messaging me like how he used to, except without the romantic/sexual parts. I'm so devastated and hurt and sad and he is the only one that can make me feel better. I'm terrified about surgery and he was the only one that made me feel calm about it, the way he talked to me about it and how safe he makes me feel just with his presence. This is my first dd/lg relationship. I've always been submissive and always gravitated towards dominant, usually older men. But this is the first relationship where we have actually discussed and explored what it means to engage in a caregiver/little dynamic and what it means to us both and how to have our needs met etc. I have grown SO much in the past year, he got me to kick old bad influences I was keeping around, self-destructive bad habits...my health...my independence...everything, he just always wanted to help me grow and took care of me emotionally like no one has ever done for me in my entire life. It feels ilke he is still trying to take care of me in a way by talking to me now, but I'm afraid it is only because of my surgery. I love him so much, I dont know what to do cus I want him to heal but I need him so bad right now. When he apologized last night he said he couldnt deal with everything and that he didn't want to make things worse for me cus I had my own stuff I'm trying to cope with. I'm trying to be supportive. I dont want to be needy and put pressure on him cus he is in a dark place right now and I don't want to be selfish. But the little in me is screaming and crying and begging to be comforted, and I just have to bottle it up. This doesn't feel like any breakup I've ever had before, and I can't explain to anyone in my life how it feels because no one knows about the ddlg aspect of our relationship. He has broken up with me in the past and it was this same pattern. Before it was my fault though, I was struggling with substance abuse and he broke up with me for falling off the wagon for the umpteenth time, then after a day or so a few messages checking in on me, saying how much he loved me and cared for me, then we would agree we wanted to stay in each other's lives, and then we would end up back together within a few days. Almost like he didn't want to deal with my mess but couldn't stay away. (I don't say that like it's a good thing, I'm very ashamed of my actions in the first place). I've been clean for months since that happened and things have been amazing, besides the bouts of depression we both deal with. I'm afraid once I recover from surgery we wont get back together. I'm afraid he wont visit me much when I come home from the hospital. Everyone in my family keeps encouraging me to be brave for surgery, reminding me that I have him by my side, cus they don't know he broke up with me. And every time they remind me how I have his support and so much to live for etc, it's that much more devastating. And every time he messages me I am so happy, but if he stops messaging for a few hours I am in agony, sobbing and thinking the worst, unable to express it to him cus I dont want to pressure him to take care of me or scare him away. I want so badly just to cuddle and be held and have him pet me and stroke my hair and make me feel safe and secure. Any supportive words would help.

A daddy dom looking for a lil princess

If you are looking for how to write a "little searching" ad, go here: https://www.ddlgforum.com/topic/12240-how-to-write-a-babygirllittlemiddleprincesskitten-personal-ad-looking-for-a-daddymommycare-giver/ If you don't ask for what you want, you won't get it. I have read tons and tons of "little/middles" personal ads and tons and tons of "Daddy" personal ads. I think that the "right" little's/middles will respond better to you if you speak their language. Here are some suggestions on how to write your personal ad to be -More productive -Get the responses you really want -Not waste anyone's time.. If you think the below is TMI, Too Much Information, that's up to you, choose what works for your comfort. The more you share you get closer to what you want. Your personal ad should be written in your "voice." How you talk, the kind of energy you have, your sense of humor and your sense of purpose. This may seem over the top, but write it as if you were talking to them in person. Don't try to act the role of a DD, be yourself. Things to include in a list or written into conversational story telling. 1. Be specific about what kind of relationship you are looking for. It will help you out so much so take the time. Use the following if they apply -LDR, Long Distance Relationship -Online, contact is only online and not in person -24/7, you want to interact as DDlg all day long. -LTR, Long Term Relationship -Exclusive, Monogamous, Poly and any other type of term that defines how you want to be with your little/middle. 2. Your hook, what you are looking for in a one liner. Sizzle! 3. About them. Some of the things you want in a little/middle. If you think you don't know get primal. These are the things that turn you on, are pretty to look at and who in the DDlg Lifestyle you want to hang out with. As follows: -Their "Real Life" age range. Be specific If you desire a younger gal, say it in years. If it doesn't matter say that. -Their "Age Play" age range If you don't know what this is look it up. "Littles" tend to play the ages of 1 years old to 11 years old. "Middles" tend to play the ages of 12 years old to 17 years old. Be specific, because they are. -Their body type, height, tattoos?or not, long/short hair... These are your preferences. Asking for what you want in appearance is vital. If it doesn't matter to you say so. If you don't say, you will get everyone responding for no reason. -Their "Little/Middle Space" personality type...Likes to snuggle, laugh, play with their stuffies, wear diapers...use words that the little will be looking for that you want. Really talk this part up. If you don't know, then read some littles/members profiles. They will tell you exactly what littles/middles are into. 4. Your age. Your real age. A little/middle of any age will know quickly if you are lying. 5. Your Location, country, city or near to recognizable city and if that doesn't work for you at least give them your time zone. Their Location, Be sure to say where you want them to be...Local, in the same state, in the same country, in the same time zone. 6. Tell them if you are new or experienced. Number of years. -How are you on rules. Are you strict? Laid back? What kind of punishments are you into...you like to give spankings or are you a more "time out" kind of Daddy? 7. How will you care for your little/middle? -This is the place to say how much you are into being their Daddy. They love to hear all this stuff. Use their words. "I like (EXAMPLES) to hold your hand crossing the street, wash your hair, sit on my lap, wipe your tears, help you succeed in your goals...." 8.A bit about you...they are going to tell you all about them. "I like (EXAMPLES) Music-Genres, Anime, Traveling, Sky Diving, Italian Food, The color blue, I have a dog, Video Games." Say what you want. Get what you want. Feel free to question/suggest any of the above. Happy Hunting!

CAREGIVER DAY!!!! Me and a large group of people decided their needed to be an official day for caregivers, Daddy Dom’s and Mommy dommes. So It is Official everyone there is now an official caregiver day which every year it will land on JULY 27th. a day to show love to your daddy Dom your mommy domme or your Caregiver. Don’t forget to mark this date on the calendar set time aside to do something special with your dom.

CAREGIVER DAY!!!! Me and a large group of people decided their needed to be an official day for caregivers, Daddy Dom’s and Mommy dommes. So It is Official everyone there is now an official caregiver day which every year it will land on JULY 27th. a day to show love to your daddy Dom your mommy domme or your Caregiver. Don’t forget to mark this date on the calendar set time aside to do something special with your dom.

CAREGIVER DAY!!!! Me and a large group of people decided their needed to be an official day for caregivers, Daddy Dom’s and Mommy dommes. So It is Official everyone there is now an official caregiver day which every year it will land on JULY 27th. a day to show love to your daddy Dom your mommy domme or your Caregiver. Don’t forget to mark this date on the calendar set time aside to do something special with your dom.

What's something you love about being part of this community and why? It can be anything down to how you feeling and ect

Hello, you can call me Cubbzyz. I am a daddy dom from the UK looking for a Little. I am looking for someone who would love to accept me, photography and who is okay with a bit of a clingy daddy. I want to have fun with them, like go shopping, go to the park, and even cuddles. I will admit I am a dominant but I am not always like that as I know how to be delicate. I do love cuddles and would cuddle with them all the time if I could. I want to find someone who I can take care of and who can promise to love me for me and have the best times no matter what. As for now I will wait for as long as I have to until I find my Queen to love. Feel free to say hello, add or DM me

Dropping by to say a quick hello to everyone. I'm an experienced + strict dominant daddy, add me if you want to know more or if you are interested

My name is Lyla. I am 20. I am a Brat/Lg... Has been for about 4 years. Recently been left for another little. Its been really hard. My last DD played games and the end result is me not feeling comfortable with being little me any more. I find myself slipping into little space and feeling utterly alone and scared, and I end up crying myself asleep. This is me reaching out. I don't know what I need or want. Just want to feel confident as a little again.

So, I'm new to the ddlg thing and I'm in a ldr with my boyfriend. I'm a little and I am a little shy at first. My question is, how can I make my daddy feel special if we don't see each other irl? We Skype and call and text but that's it I far.

Hi! I'm kat. i'm 18 years old and fairly new to the dd/lg community. I'm a full time student hoping to make it into college to become a lawyer. I'm a dancer as well and have a kitty named Sebastian I don't have many other little friends and hope to meet them here

Hello - certainly not new to the lifestyle or community, experienced dominant daddy and master here. I was on here a while back and then took a hiatus for a little bit. I decided to come back again and see how things are. I like to provide complete guidance and training for an obedient little sub girl. All the teaching and care points will be emphasized to get into the correct state of mind for the situation. Have a good one!

So, My little one likes it when i control things in her life. like what she can wear, what we can eat, what movies to pick and ect.. but she asked me to find other things that i can control her.. If that makes sense.. but nothing sexual.. Just normal life stuff. It can be anything. we don't judge anyone and every relationship with this lifestyle is different... Feel free to PM if you feel more comfortable.... so ideas.. what does your daddy do.. Thanks everyone!

Hello, I'm a bisexual little who's looking for anything that comes my way. I've always kind of known I was a little, but I've only been introduced to this whole thing recently. When I'm in my little space, I love to color, watch Disney movies, cuddle with my stuffed panda (named Kiki!), play dress up, etc. However, when I'm out of my little space, I'm a journalism major at my college and outside of that, I mainly like to write, sing, watch vintage movie musicals, dress in old-fashioned glamorous attire, etc. As mentioned before, I'm completely new to this, so having people explain to me all the ins and outs of this community would be awesome, as well as someone to share with. If this site isn't good for you, my Kik is xxcrimsonhairxx (made it about five years ago when I was fourteen, so please forgive me for the "edgy" username). Thanks so much!

hey guys imash or ashlee and i’m from texas!! i’m looking for a daddy, but that’s not what i’m talking about here. Here, i’m looking for friends!! if you wanna send me a message or friend request, feel free to!!

Okay, so. I'm in a DDLG relationship. But it's ldr. I recently told daddy I'm a middle, he understood and happily embraced it! I can talk freely the way I want. I'm so happy about that~ But next stage is getting comfortable with rules and punishments. We have simple ones; no swearing. This leads to writing lines No touchies of what's daddy's. I'll get a spanking when he comes over (July is when we meet!!!) And/or time out from playtime That's all..! We need more rules and punishments. Something to keep the fun up. Yes.. funishments are very welcome. Don't tell daddy! We wanna get closer together as kitten and daddy. Not just boyfriend and girlfriend. So other advice for LDR relationships like ours is VERY welcome! ^-^

Hey im new.. >~< Just wanted to meet everyone, imma little who blazes alot (smokes weed) n i play alot of video games, i have peircings... i dont know what else to say but... hey! (づ｡◕‿‿◕｡)づ

Hello , I am a 26 year old daddy dom from India , been doing this for 8 years now , new here. I am looking for both online and in real life slaves. My kik is ironheart123. About me : Body type : Athletic , I give a lot of time , like controlling whole life of my slave. Love slaves in all shapes and ages. I am very understanding with new slaves , I give them the time to adapt with this lifestyle. I am caring yet harsh , loving and playful , just and naughty . I would spank you like crazy and still cuddle with you to sleep. And hey one thing I hate is ghosting , if you are gonna leave midway say bye.

Hey everyone, new to this forum, loving every bit of it. A 25yr old American Daddy Dom. I’ll try to keep this short n sweet. I’ve been average vanilla joe for a long time until I came across DDLG with my exgirlfriend. We had a dull typical relationship we both knew was missing something. One night, steamy sex, missionary, and just as she was about to climax, in the spur of the moment, I asked her to “Cum for Me” and god, she hugged me, clung to me and orgasmed like never before and shouted “Yes, Daddy!” as soon as I heard it, it was like a flipped switched and I turned into a monster. Needless to say it was the dawn of a new lifestyle. For her it was a secret Daddy fetish but I began craving more until I found DDLG. Currently I travel a lot for work and so meeting girls of my type much less my kink have been difficult so I’ve turned to online relationships and finally came across Virtual Adult games such as RLC, IMVU and 3DxChat (by far the best) and started meeting a wide variety of BDSM lovers and others of all sorts but not many into DDLG. TL:DR So I’m wondering for those who have long distance relationships, who are into virtual games or just into DDLG how has your experience been and how do you feel about virtual games in DDLG dynamic?